My boyfriend has never been confident with his looks. He’s an average looking guy. To me, he’s the cutest goober I’ve ever laid eyes on, but he thinks he’s like a 3/10 in society’s beauty standards.
I always tell him that he’s handsome or cute whenever he feels insecure about his looks (because to me, it’s true). Whenever he sends me selfies, I can’t help but appreciate him because he rarely takes photos of himself. He’s always wear a facemask or stand in the back of the crowd and have his face partially covered.
I would encourage him to wear something else other than black clothes (black pants, black tshirt, black shoes. Always that combo). I know that he should wear whatever he wants but c’mooooon atleast add a bit of color in your closet 😂. He thinks he looks the best wearing black clothes.
It makes me a bit sad that we don’t have any decent or cute couple photos because he’s really insecure of his face. Like he’d express that he wants us to have photos together, but he just really doesn’t like his face. It frustrates me that I can’t to boost his confidence. I love him so much, and I just want him to love himself a bit more.
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If he feels good in black, just appreciate that he feels good in it and continue doing what you are doing otherwise. If you want couple photos maybe start with keeping them private on your phone and reassuring him how much you adore him. The subtle unprompted positive remarks always helped my confidence but I recognize it could stir a tiny bit of anxiety. Non sexual intimacy can go a long way, such as simply caressing his face and issuing a compliment for example. Each individual is different but I think you simply wanting to do such a thing for your partner will in time be enough. You hear it so much from the same person it becomes harder and harder to deny them of such thoughts and he may forever have his doubts but sometimes having someone there to love you, despite you being your own worst critic, is enough.