How can I (28F) be more understanding gf with my (38M) bf?

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Hi guys,

Today marks our 1st anniversary and we are in a LDR setup. I sent him an email to greet him with our photos and the customized gifts that I made for our Anniversary. He sent me a message, “I stopped playing my video games to say thank you. “ Then, resumed playing. I understand that he’s an awkward texter and not good with words but it still kinda hurts a bit. I sometimes wonder how he’s so different in person— he’s caring and sweet.

I also been feeling quite emotional because of his obsession with video games so I usually told him about it. But it seems like he likes spending time with those video games than me. We don’t do video calls, we just chat, which we both prefer. I asked him if he would be like that when we close the gap, and he said no— we’ll do many activities together. I think he feels lonely that’s why he excessively plays to kill time.

However, I sometimes feel lonely because I hope that when I wake up in the morning, I’ll see a message from him but sometimes, there’s none, since he usually plays video games after work.

We’ve met once and we’re planning to see each other again in the first quarter of next year, and I still want to hold on until that second meetup to see if he’ll truly fall in love with me because he told me he likes me, but doesn’t love me yet. And I understand that because falling love takes time to other people.

The thing is, how can I survive each day and be understanding, to not get upset, when he’s too focused on his games or when he doesn’t reply?

TL;DR How can I (28F) be more understanding gf with my (38M) bf?

Comments

  1. Owskaa123 Avatar

    Man, what are you doing? You’re in a LDR and he doesn’t even text you good morning/good night every day? The bar is so low. What is the point?
    Dump him already, you can do so much better!

  2. luckycharm03 Avatar

    2 things and I say this w love as someone older than you (you sound young) #1 long distance relationships don’t work, #2 He’s just not that into you. Please fill yourself w confidence and start looking for someone else in your are that can truly value you. He ain’t it