tl;dr – I have been playing cards with neighbors for 2 years now. I feel my presence is no longer wanted. Best to try a slow fade or rip the band-aid off and address it head-on? Or ask if I said/did anything wrong?
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I moved to a townhome community 2 years ago. Since then, I have spent nearly every weekend with 3 of my neighbors (husband/wife and Marie, 50s), playing cards, drinking, and having (what I thought was) a good time.
Wife’s attitude/behavior towards me has felt ‘off’ for the past few weeks. I can’t really put my finger on it, but she just seems more curt and short when talking with me. I really just assumed it was related to some health issues she’d been having.
Anyways, yesterday was the wife’s birthday. I just by chance got home when they (husband/wife/Marie) did. They had all gone out to eat together. When talking to the wife and saying happy birthday, the only thing she mentioned to me was that I might not want to play cards with them this weekend, because Marie is having family over?
There was no mention of playing or getting together that night. However, I an hour later I awkwardly came across them all heading over to Marie’s house and I was essentially invited on a technicality.
From assessing everything, I can only assume (for whatever reason) that my presence is no longer wanted. Really unsure of how to deal with this, given the fact we literally live next to each other. I have a dog that I have to walk, so I see them at minimum a few times a week.
Perhaps best to ‘slow fade’ and only address it if they say anything?
Edit: I am reposting this after it was removed for “not having a clear, concise question.”
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Didn’t you already post this? Why didn’t you take the advice in that thread?
No one can know what they are thinking or why they are pulling back, you can just accept that they aren’t being as inviting and try to keep to yourself. If you see them, just wave or be friendly, but stop going over even if they invite you, and do your own thing.
You’ve posted about this a lot. I commented on one of your posts earlier. You really need to let it go, you seem obsessed with it. Whatever reason they have is their reason and they don’t have to share it with you. If they wanted to they would. Maybe one of them is going through something private like with their health or family and they wouldn’t feel comfortable discussing that with you. Maybe they just don’t like you. Don’t make it a whole big drama, just be polite if you see them and get on with your life.