my name is Rinny or Rin i am 14 years old and my mother who lived in Japan recently passed away and my dad is so very sad and i don’t know what to do. I never met my mother in person and i barley talked to her in calls or text but on the other hand my dad loved her and i know that. she stayed in japan because she took over her father’s temple and so she wanted to stay while my dad moved to america here to take care ofme and because of his job. she passed from having a tumor in her head . my dad is so insanely sad and tired it scares me and makes me so sad. i’ve tried everything, ive talked to him and hugged him and cook for him im tired. I love my dad so much it hurts my heart really bad and makes me sad too. my dad takes very good care of me and i am his princess and seeing him like this messes with my head really bad. what do i do ? i will do everything to make him happy again
how can i make my dad happy again? 14f
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Rin, it’s great that you care so much about your dad 🥹. Keep being there for him, give him time to grieve, and don’t feel like you have to fix everything. Small things like talking to him, spending time together, or even just sitting quietly can help.
I understand you want to make your father happy, the only way is to be a good daughter, achieving good grades, being happy yourself, he needs to have his own healing process, it’ll take time. Just give him space and time.
your presence and care matter more than you know. It’s not your job to fix your dad’s grief, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Keep showing kindness, talk openly with him, and consider reaching out to a trusted adult or counselor for support. Healing takes time, and you’re not alone.
Grief is just love with no where to go.. Losing your partner can be rough and I bet it is.. But it’s so kind of you to want to be there for your dad. I know he means a lot to you..
I would be there, be present, spend time with him, talk to him, about anything, support him and be yourself. You are the piece of her that she left behind for him to enjoy and I’d take pride in that.. Keep going to school, keep being good, keep doing good and supporting your dad. Grief will be long. Grief will be hard; but he has you with him and that will carry him ages. If you’re worried for his well being, when he’s ready, bring him to a grief counselor to help with his feelings. They’re valid. He may need it and there are communities around him that would be happy to take him in as part of their fellowship to help him. Best of luck Rin!🐣🐹