I’m 22 years old, and I’ve been severely addicted to porn since I was 13 years old. It’s legitmently fucked with my everyday life since I was 17, and I’m just so tired of it at this point.
I never want to watch porn again, ever. I’m done with it. Any advice on how to quit for good?
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Have you tried watching something to replace the porn with?
Yes find some hobbies that really matters to you, exercise and develop yourself. You are in your twenties, every single small self investment you do now will give you huge leaps in your 30s and 40s.
Keep that in mind and know that you are watching people getting pleasure and money while u get nothing (or even lose)
Reddit will be a constant trigger so you have to block it forever
If everything else fails, see a doctor.
There are meds that make you less horny.
Gouge out your eyes.
You’re welcome.
Go offline totally
Hung in there my friend. Everything in lift takes time to recover however you can do it by being consistent. Try taking small steps and be consistent. First step is not to be in a lonely place and access to things that trigger ur mind. You can do it for sure. Take small steps and keep going.
Reddit is definitely a huge trigger. Come off it, replace with an actual physical relationship? Possibly your wanking too much cause your sexually frustrated. You need a release.
For your WiFi, there should be an option to automatically turn on SafeSearch to block out every NSFW website, video, and image that might pop up, and also have it so you can’t turn it off without a password. Sometimes a few images slip through, but it helps quite a lot. Turn off Mobile Data as well, that can also bring up images and videos that SafeSearch blocks out.
If you can’t do that, I suggest trying to call someone, or talking to someone like a friend or family member. Not about the addiction, but just to take your mind off of things.
Get a girl
porn is one of the hardest addictions to quit because of how saturated it is all over the internet. It’s not impossible though. Whenever you get the urge, make the mental choice to do something else and deny your brain the satisfaction of that kind of gratification.
If you relapse, that’s okay, baby steps are better than no steps. Just keep at it.
Rational advice: Ween yourself off of it slowly to get rid of the dopamine high and give yourself small rewards every day you go without it.
Unhinged advice: Remove eyes. No eyes. No watching porn. (Don’t actually do this)
Those uncontacted peoples in South America probably don’t have internet access. Dial-up at best.
Go get laid
Counseling and therapy.
Often times the addiction is masking something deeper, a want, unfilled need or misdirected thought process- these are often hard to unravel on your own – I would highly recommend looking into psychologists 🙂
This is no stupid questions but you’re getting many stupid answers.
I suggest thinking about how you’ll feel afterwards. Project yourself to post nut clarity and think about the disappointment you’ll feel if you regress to using porn.
Another trick is being kind to yourself. If you DO regress, remind yourself that you’ve acknowledged a problem and you can be proud about that fact and effort. Nobodies perfect and you will not always be strong. Allow yourself to fail and just use the feeling of that to help strengthen you for the next time you get horny. You’ll find you get more time between failures if you aren’t too harsh on yourself. Slow and steady progress.
Maybe it’s even worth allowing yourself to taper. If you’ve been looking at porn many times a day, allow yourself to do it only once a day. Do that for a month. Then work towards eventually only looking every second day. Then one every three days. Then once a week. Etc.
Essentially you know you want to quit, and that is your engine. You’ve already done the hard part which is acknowledging an issue in yourself and an improvement on who you want to be. Good work!
No look at things day to day, and speak to your inner self with kindness and guidance. Take deep breaths and you’ll get there.
Make it soo obvious to stop it don’t see it as a fight just stop it like it’s very normal see it as an average thing and see yourself beyond it .
Read books have fun go outside travel make yourself too buzy that you will never need that shit
Gaslight urself into believing that you never even actually watched it and you just have to psychologically force urself out of it, everytime you feel an urge just be like wait, why do I even want to watch this? I’m trying to do better too
Get a girlfriend.
It’s hard but if you’re serious you’ll get it. It took me a long time but I became very spiritual. I would listen to spiritual music, videos, motivational contents. It helped me with anxiety, it helped me get focused, I started to run and lift weights.
honestly just lock in bro if u actually want it youll make it happen all i see is u being defensive and making excuses on why u cant stop, most the time watching porn comes from pure boredom or seeing to much sexual content even just regular women showing a lil to much skin on the internet.
Start controlling the content u see on instagram and snapchat or tiktok theres content preferences and ways you can refresh your whole feed to start avoiding these (ill call them “triggers”) but yea the more u keep your brain and eyes from seeing and thinking sexual the easier it will be to avoid porn n spinning back to the boredom thing thats where youll have to just be strong bro like i said before if u want it genuinely youll make it happen theres countless benefits to not watching porn and honestly once u actually get into a relationship itll ruin your experience with your significant other aswell bro trust me, also you could probably use some sort of parental controls to block those websites on your phone and just make it a password u literally wont remember but idk if thats actually possible i just thought of that now lol but good luck bro seriously and goodluck finding a girl aswell because tbh thats the easiest way out of this lol once u have the real thing and ur with her a decent amount it wont be hard to quit porn but yea gl bro!!
Don’t think about stopping it forever. Try reduce the frequency. Like target for every other day, then aim for only once or twice a week.
And workout. You’re probably bored in your spare time and just go watch porn by default. Workout can help to move away from it. You’ll also be in a better shape which can definitely help you get laid sooner. It can also boost your performance for the real deal.
Like any addiction, usually you’ll quit when engaging in the addiction is harder than not.
There is no magic trick, if you are truly tired you will stop. Set boundaries, replacement behaviors, and restrictions on yourself.
Parental controls, block URL’s, make anew Reddit.
Only you know what you need to do; if you need support, I am sure you can find groups.
Good luck.
By not watching it forever
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Maybe you should see a therapist, and not the one on your screen that eventually tells you how to jerk off.Â
I was an editor in the porn industry for a while. It was fun for the first week. Now I can’t watch a porn movie without remembering how shitty that job was, and how depressed the actors and actresses looked between shots.
I don’t know if it’s related, but I’m asexual now.
Not sure if you’re into exercise at all, but if I catch myself getting the urge to watch it I will do some quick workouts. Once I have worn myself out well with a couple sets of pushups/crunches/planks/pullups the urge is completely gone. Hope this works for you too
I’m gonna shoot it straight. If you’re a celibate 22 year old male, your libido is gonna be about as high as it’s ever gonna be; its going to demand attention and need regular relief just as a matter of biological/psychological fact.
Now, when it’s time for relief (orgasm) i guess you’ve got other options than porn. There’s erotic literature, ai chat apps, your imagination, audio erotica, asmr, etc. I dunno what you’re gonna use, but I know for sure that you’ll never ever go cold turkey off masturbation if that’s what you’re imagining, since your post seems to conflate sex with masturbation and porn with women (e.g. “one day I’ll have sex with women and won’t have this problem.”)
I too have been addicted for a long time. But I’m older than you. I’ll just say I’m in my 30s. Check out the subreddit nofap if you haven’t yet. It’s helped me even if it’s to vent. And you can find an accountability partner there to help. The longer you are addicted the harder it’ll be to quit I think. It often takes hitting rock bottom before anyone decides to really quit. Just like people who are severely obese and one heart attack could be their wake up call. You have to WILL yourself to quit and embrace the extremely uncomfortable withdrawal symptoms. And then tell yourself it’s part of the healing process, it’s a bumpy hill but it’ll get easier with time. I recently did 91 days nofap but relapsed a few days ago. It was a monumental achievement for me. You can do it too. Good luck.
I was watching porn and wanted to quit. So I started thinking about every person as a human and not just looking at the videos. Like these people were once children with a dream job that probably wasn’t porn or thinking about how the industry is pretty Fucked up as a whole. So I started only watching animated stuff or hentai. Eventually that wasn’t doing it for me. So I switched to reading smut. And now I usually use nothing but my brain. If I can’t get off without watching/reading anything, I realized im probably not that horny and was probably only masturbating due to boredom and find something better to do. Go for a walk, take a shower, exercise.
My question is what makes you watch it? If you are not getting enough in bed? well figure it out what is missing are you performing good enough for your other half go full on everything? Or you just want more and more?
Do drugs instead.
Just don’t. There really aren’t any shortcuts. Whenever you feel like watching it, don’t. Practicing this self discipline will make you feel accomplished and it gets easier with time.
By not doing the thing you want to quit.
When you feel the urge to watch porn, just go do some situps, bench presses/pumping, physical excercise
The brain isn’t really addicted to porn, but addicted to the dopamine releases by achieving an orgasm through porn.
So instead of getting the dopamine high from mastrubating, you go do some sport/do some runs around the house.
Give a week or three and keep continuing this and you’ll kick off.
Try to mastrubate without watching porn, just your imagination.
See what’s behind the porn, some out of touch, old, corporial overlord that thinks that “men will be men” and that “sex sells”.
Get good at relationships so you can have a real person show you their naked body if you want to see it, etc…
Get a woman that loves you please you and will be your personal porn star.
Log onto your router and ban porn, it should affect you whilst connected on your phone aswell as it will be wifi
I won’t give you advice but I’ll share how I stopped
I used to watch porn every other day. I remember getting frustrated by it because I genuinely didn’t want to anymore. It got to a point in which what I wanted was just to watch porn and not even masturbate.
However, I eventually found a new hobby that consumed a lot of my free time. Being busy with something else made me forget I even wanted to watch porn. I haven’t actively watched it ever since (unfortunately porn is all over the internet these days and you can’t escape it)
Focus on real relationships with people who will have meaningful influence on your life. “Addiction” rarely has any sway on people who have their needs met in healthy and productive ways. Physical affection is a real documented need. Babies died without it. We all need and crave affection and intimacy. It’s human nature. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Learn how to develop and give trust to the people in your life who can have a positive impact to improve the quality of your life. Decide what you want from life and what you have to offer. Figure out what you feel insecure about.
Man come to r/nofap,
What does it ruin your life? I ask because I don’t know? I look at 27 cards at least and I don’t see a problem. I won’t walk around with a loaded one. So what’s the problem with you want to send?
As someone whose been in your position and “fallen off the wagon” more than a few times I can give you a few tips. First off, just going cold turkey, a lot harder than it seems at first. If youre like most people addicted to it, you’ve probably gotten to the point where even real sex seems dull in comparison because your idea of sex is so varied because of porn that it’ll seem like a letdown. I got to the point where I didnt just see people as people anymore, just bodies Id automatically fantasize about. And its not just porn itself but other things you indulge in that you don’t realize leads up to wanting to watch porn like watching NSFW things on social media. I didn’t realize how many sexualized groups/feeds I was part of that I had to go out of my way to remove from the algorithm.
For me personally the hardest thing to do, which actually worked in the long run, was jerk off with absolutely no porn. Cutting out porn doesn’t mean cutting out all sexual activity but being able to find release without external stimulation. Seems almost impossible after over a decade of only doing it with porn but it can be done. The first few times it’ll definitely seem like a chore, but the idea is to gradually ween yourself off needing porn to be able to do it. It’s like needing a cigarette in a way, jerking off and being able to see all your fantasies right in front of your face, but the goal is to achieve release while focusing only on the sensations, nothing else. Again it’ll be boring and nothing like with porn helping you, but see it like scratching an itch, you get the endorphin rush you’re seeking. Once its done you can focus on other things.
Most people will say to keep busy, which is true, more often than not Id start watching it because I was bored. When you’re first starting out you’ll want to keep moving and change up your routine so that boredom doesn’t set in and you go back to your default habits. I go out of my way to take walks during the day and work out more. Wherever you usually watch it, try to avoid those locations, or at least remaining there and again allowing boredom set it. I used to keep my laptop sitting in my dining room and only ever went in there to watch porn. Know your triggers and adapt accordingly.
One of the major pitfalls I can warn you about is making deals/excuses for yourself to go back to watching it. For example, after a point Id start making a deal with myself internally that instead of doing it every day Id just watching porn once a week, and not even drag things out to the 4-6 hours like I usually would, once I knew I was about to cum I wouldnt try to hold off, just be done and move on. Eventually that one day would turn into every other day, until I was back to every day.
And dont focus on how long its been, treat every day as Day 1. Before I did that after a long period of time Id start to fantasize about how good it was, how long its been, and just completely ignoring how much time I would waste doing it. Every day is Day 1 to change your habit so you dont end up in the position to give in.
Now I realize Im throwing a lot at you, but I can safely say if you end up slipping, trust me its not the end of the world. The longest I lasted was a little over 3 months. All you can do is start over, learn from your mistakes, and try again.
Do some physical activity like pushups or sit-ups
Just think about how indian you’re being while you’re doing it