I’ve been in a long-term relationship for over 6 years.
My girlfriend is a genuinely good person — she loves me deeply, has a successful career (she’s almost a doctor), and is generally positive and kind.
Our sex life is frequent and passionate.
Despite all this, I feel unhappy.
I don’t fully understand why, and it makes me feel like a terrible person.
Part of me feels I should have ended the relationship a long time ago, but I haven’t been able to bring myself to do it.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did it turn out?
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Okay, the first question is:
What happened when you two spoke about this?
It might be other things in ur life that make u unhappy
Are you unhappy with other parts of your life?
What specifically about the relationship makes you unhappy? It’s concerning to want to leave a good relationship without having a clear why.
Because the why could be fixed, or you could be projecting unhappiness from elsewhere onto the relationship, or it could be a temporary lull in the relationship.
My man, you need to sit down with someone and work through your emotions and explore what’s causing them. Leaving your girlfriend without knowing why you’re unhappy is like jumping the counter at a pharmacy and taking a random pill to fix your stomach ache.
This is the kind of shit you end up regretting. Either you know why you’re not satisfied and feel like a bad person for saying it, so you try and fail to ignore it (perhaps she works too much, she let herself get fat, you’ve developed a daft crush on a girl at work, etc etc.)
Trying to rationalise your way out of it without facing up to why you feel like that is a bad idea, take it from me.
Ok, you might want to get checked for depression. It’s not something to ignore.
If you don’t know why you’re unhappy, then how is breaking up with someone who sounds like a great person going to fix your unhappiness? The grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence.
If you feel like you’re losing yourself in the relationship, then get yourself back. You can still be an individual and still be in a relationship.
Just make sure you handle your issues first. Otherwise, no matter what decision you make, you’ll still be unhappy.
Speak with a therapist a few times to work through what’s wrong.
It sounds like it’s not her and it could be a genuine chemical imbalance that has nothing to do with her.
You may regret leaving her the rest of your life.
If you don’t know why, then you need help.
Depression or even boredom, when you have it all it can leave you feeling unchallenged and therefore bored in the relationship, perhaps you miss the chase or are sick of the same old routine