I don’t know how this upbringing of making your parents proud, making a name for yourself and being in right path will earn respect from society.
Saying things like without education nobody will respect you. Same thing goes for money, if you don’t have that nobody really cares about you.
I’m not even young anymore but it feels like out of all my friends, I’m the only one who is behind in life. They all completed college and have secure high paying jobs and thinking about marriage. Few already shifted abroad. And I just been hearing this life lectures that feels like reality check that if you don’t study and don’t work a job no partner will accept you. Even family will go in stress if you don’t anything with your life. I feel like I’m lacking himmat this resilence. I’m so soft naive dull slow person. I really wish I was like others who are naturally confident and you could feel their aura
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it seems like you have Two goals, to make a name for yourself and find a partner you connect with. very rarely do these coincide together.
no one will be able to tell you how to make a name for yourself because there is no magic way or blueprint nor something that you choose It happens many different ways.
finding a partner you connect with means putting yourself out there and being vulnerable while being open to someone accepting that no matter the person.
Oh hun- you may need a break from these ‘life lectures’- things like this often make their money by convincing you that you failed or aren’t enough and that they can ‘fix’ you with more lectures, paid consultations, books and digital courses. They can be interesting but don’t base your self worth on them.
If you want to work on your confidence, make a name for yourself and possibly find a life partner- take a good look at yourself. Figure out the positive personality traits you have- outgoing, positive, compassionate, empathetic, creative, honest, a hard worker etc and figure out which ones are most important to you. You want to make small adjustments to stay true to your best self and keep it sustainable.
If you want to be known as an honest or generous or kind person, cultivate those qualities. Find ways for those qualities to be incorporated into your life, so they fit naturally and long term. Be someone you are proud of and others will notice. You cant guarantee specific people will be proud of you (looking at you parents) but that’s a them problem.
And know that you are worthy of love and affection whether or not you can easily find someone else to give you those things, you can love yourself.
There are a lot of paths to making a name for yourself. Some involve money, some involve education, some involve having an indispensable skill. Remember, who’s the most important person when your sewer system is clogged? A lawyer? A Doctor? The president of the company? Or the plumber?