Finding someone attractive doesn’t mean I have to want to be with them. All kinds of people in this world are hot as fuck–it’s not like that causes me to cease to function. So I guess my answer is “I’m more than a set of genitalia seeking to reproduce”?
I don’t really do hook ups so, if I don’t see him as partner material, or he doesn’t see me as such, there is no problem. Or if one of us is in a relationship already. It’s no issue for me to remain friends with them.
Pretty easily, if you’re both adults capable of impulse control and emotional maturity.
I’ve only ever had it be an issue when either the other person chose to repeatedly sexually harass me (which necessitated me ending the friendship), or when one person falls in love with the other (which can obviously be extremely painful/messy if not reciprocated).
But attraction alone isn’t an issue. A lot of my friends are people I think are attractive and vice-versa. In no way does that mean we can’t be friends.
If you just find them attractive by just admiring their beauty as a friend, if you are in love with them: getting a little bit of distance and dropping those feelings, letting go of that. Then coming back to a friendship.
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Finding someone attractive doesn’t mean I have to want to be with them. All kinds of people in this world are hot as fuck–it’s not like that causes me to cease to function. So I guess my answer is “I’m more than a set of genitalia seeking to reproduce”?
I don’t really do hook ups so, if I don’t see him as partner material, or he doesn’t see me as such, there is no problem. Or if one of us is in a relationship already. It’s no issue for me to remain friends with them.
Pretty easily, if you’re both adults capable of impulse control and emotional maturity.
I’ve only ever had it be an issue when either the other person chose to repeatedly sexually harass me (which necessitated me ending the friendship), or when one person falls in love with the other (which can obviously be extremely painful/messy if not reciprocated).
But attraction alone isn’t an issue. A lot of my friends are people I think are attractive and vice-versa. In no way does that mean we can’t be friends.
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Enjoy their company as they are, not as you think they are.
By not dating them? If I couldn’t be friends with somebody I found attractive I would have way fewer female friends
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By having even a tiny bit of self control.
If you just find them attractive by just admiring their beauty as a friend, if you are in love with them: getting a little bit of distance and dropping those feelings, letting go of that. Then coming back to a friendship.