How can you get out of a marriage and be able to live? Not one person can afford to live on their own with cost of living and rents so high, so you either stay in a miserable marriage or you live your car. Years ago people could get divorced and still be able to survive. Now you are forced to be in a horrible marriage and risk suicide, and that’s the end of your life one way or another. Jobs don’t pay enough for one person to support themselves let alone if you have children. I’ve never felt so trapped in my life. Looking. for higher paying jobs or second jobs is not as easy. I’m a successful business person however still she reached my max pay. It’s insane. Everyone says leave California yeah well if it was that easy and had the money then I wouldn’t be stuck now. When you don’t have anyone to turn to no family no friends that can help, wtf do you do? You’re alone and scared and trapped in suffocating abusive marriage. This can’t be all my life will be. Anyone know of anything ? Again I have zero relatives. Some friends but they have their own families. i legit am alone. Never in a million years did I think this is how my life would turn out, I did everything right well at least tried, I’m always screwed at the end. i’m sick of watching people who are just horrible people get everything handed to them. My whole life I was a happy person till I got married. Then he changed or just became who he actually was the whole time. After the kids I knew in my heart I should have left. before he ruined my life but I didn’t go with my instincts I thought about my kids having. to be in two different homes.!But that would have been better than dealing with a narcissist.