How can you tell when people find you attractive?

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How can you tell when people find you attractive?

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  1. stony_rock Avatar

    You might get a few unexpected compliments

  2. Busty-Cutie6 Avatar

    Body language never lies. You’ll catch them stealing glances when they think you’re not looking or their feet will be pointed towards you in group settings.

  3. BlahBlahBlah_3748 Avatar

    They take interest in what you have to say

    Their behaviour changes in subtle ways with you vs with other people who they don’t necessarily find attractive

    You get looked at more, lots of double takes and stuff

  4. JimAbaddon Avatar

    I’m not attractive so they will not.

  5. Hot-Acanthaceae4084 Avatar

    When someone’s into you, they’ll sneak those quick little glances—just a second of eye contact before looking away. Classic “stealing glances” move.

    They’ll also react more to what you say—like laughing at something that isn’t even that funny, just to grab your attention.

    It’s all in the body language and behavior, baby.

  6. turkishdad3 Avatar

    When they compliment me

  7. lovelyy_florentine Avatar

    You’ll notice by the way they look at you, smile more, or seem really engaged in your conversation. Things like leaning towards you or copying your movements also give it away.

  8. launie Avatar

    I can never tell until I’ve gotten myself into an uncomfy situation

  9. BigJLov3 Avatar

    Couldn’t say. I like to think I’m oblivious, but I’m quite aware no one has been attracted to me.

  10. HumbleDiscussion318 Avatar

    It’s not a fail safe method, but usually if they act a certain way and look at me a certain way, there’s something there…

  11. FluffyBunnyFlipFlops Avatar

    I don’t think it’s ever happened so I have no idea.

  12. detrevnI_Entropy Avatar

    When you get nudes without asking

  13. fairpointtt Avatar

    Prolonged eye contact

  14. cj40west Avatar

    When she wakes up in my bed naked. With that JBF hairstyle (Just been fucked)

  15. ShinyDemeanor Avatar

    Not only do they look at your more, but they will touch themselves more when they are engaging with you. Their face, hair, maybe rubbing their thighs

  16. SlowGringo Avatar

    They give you the Long Eye, and keep giving it.

  17. grimpaaj Avatar

    They give you their attention

  18. Emmawatsonsss Avatar

    When your receive a compliments from them

  19. billsussmann Avatar

    You can tell a lot about how someone feels about you by the position of their feet. For example, if they’re around your ears, you know they like you a lot

  20. shee_yowie Avatar

    damn reading all these comments made me realize im not😭 cuz none of it happened to me

  21. cececookiesncream Avatar

    They keep talking to you and won’t shut up.

  22. Bella702 Avatar

    Eye contact.

  23. Kab00dl3z Avatar

    As a woman, I have noticed that men that are interested in me/flirting will seem interested in what I’m saying (whether or not they are is a different story) and be more engaged inthe conversation. Though I keep to myself and am not very talkative, so they also appear to find it validating if they can get me to talk to them

  24. Erianapolis Avatar

    I never knew and never will.

  25. Constant-Coat5656 Avatar

    No one ever found me attractive ever! So, I don’t know.

  26. yen132 Avatar

    For me usually its the repeated eye-contact. Might be my delusion as well:D

  27. LeftBullTesty Avatar

    For women, repeated glancing is a strong yet subtle sign. Intense eye contact is a pretty direct sign. Close proximity and touch is basically an invitation for boundary pushing.

  28. Big-Swordfish-2439 Avatar

    I have a hard time with this but the one thing that gives it away is they look at you a lot. You can almost feel their gaze on you.

  29. Gibrankhuhro Avatar

    I think after 40 people find me attractive 🙂

  30. FineResponsibility61 Avatar

    They talk to me for no sensible reason and keep coming up with new topics of discussion as we speak

  31. Kindly-Engineer-9034 Avatar

    You can usually tell someone finds you attractive by the little things. They look at you a lot, smile, laugh at your jokes, and try to be around you. They might compliment you or remember random things you’ve said. Sometimes they even get a bit shy or nervous. It’s all in the small stuff.

  32. carptrap1 Avatar

    Not qualified to answer 😕

  33. QuadH Avatar

    Those that have no interest or chance of pursuing a relationship with you will straight up tell you. Like a random old lady / man.

    Otherwise they keep looking at you, and you get 110% of their attention when you’re speaking.

  34. Powerful-Plankton77 Avatar

    Welcome to the rainforest…

  35. dbmaj7_ Avatar

    Because they’re reading this right now

  36. Winter_Ratio_4831 Avatar

    Men look at my face, look at my breasts, then steady, intense eye contact with a grin.
    I’ve noticed women will look me up & down then grab the arm of the man they’re with or get his attention if he’s facing me. Makes me laugh to myself every time.

  37. JohnCharles-2024 Avatar

    I wouldn’t know.

  38. Candle-Jolly Avatar

    They’ll tell you. 

  39. scriptkiddie1337 Avatar

    Do kids call you ugly? No? Well that’s a good start

  40. kingseraph0 Avatar

    Lots of things. They stare at you, find reasons to talk to you, laugh at your jokes, even if it’s not that funny. They’ll compliment you too, or always say hi when you pass by.

  41. Dear-Relationship666 Avatar

    From a MAN’S PERSPECTIVE it can be very tricky to tell if a woman is interested. Ive had women hang onto to my every word and even come into my personal space socially to be turned down. However, from my experience the telltale signs…..

    1. EYE CONTACT- self explanatory

    2. They will ASK QUESTIONS/SLIP IN A COMPLEMENT: We’ve all been in small talk situations. Ive noticed when you keep it basic; some women will elaborate and slip in a random compliment. The compliment is thrown out there as if to say ” i like you…. what do you like about me…tell me more”

    3. In public…. some will ” circle you like a shark” . You see that same woman in the grocery aisle who gave a little eye contact. She’s placing herself in a position for you to notice her and hopefully talk to her.

  42. Elrond_Cupboard_ Avatar

    I got a double take the other day. Made my fucking day.

  43. glasser999 Avatar

    Eye contact. The fuck me eyes never lie.

  44. According-Exam-4737 Avatar

    Generally, people will bring it up without you doing anything— that is if you are objectively attractive. If someone steal glances from you or pays much more attention to you when in a group, chances are they are attracted to you

  45. loggerhead632 Avatar

    lots of eye contact, body language will be facing you, playing with hair or some kinda fidgeting when you talk, laughing, etc

    it’s pretty obvious

  46. Economy-Ad7887 Avatar

    If a woman is really into you, she won’t be able to leave her hair alone.

  47. marks_ecstasy Avatar

    Definitely there has eye contact.

  48. alzhu Avatar

    Compliments and laughing at your jokes

  49. LizeLies Avatar

    I couldn’t tell you what you do experience, but what you don’t as an unattractive woman. I’ve never been sexually harassed. No car horns or hollers when I pass construction sites. When you’re young, men pretend to ask you out as a joke to see if you fall for it, so you learn that all positive comments are insincere. That’s the only way you do get asked out. I’m married and 35 but we met online as teenagers on opposite sides of the world so there was no traditional dating. I’ve never had a wink, a wave, a phone number request, a smile across a room, a drink bought for me or experienced any other kind of flirting. It’s like if life were a video game, you’re playing life on a default non-gendered setting.

  50. stucjei Avatar

    People are mostly referring to physical attraction here it seems, but psychological attraction alsonplays a significant role… if they’re attracted to you, they’ll probably show interest.

    Last time I was looking at someone that I found physically attractive on top of psychologically attractive I just stared at them often, to observe them. Then she made eye contact; I just snapped “what?” at her in that moment. She said “nothing, you’re looking as well”.

  51. Defiant-Breakfast660 Avatar

    The way they look at you

  52. PotamosClasp Avatar

    Lots of body language. Like if there are multiple people sitting and they’re sitting closer, facing you, and/or leaning closer to you. Their eyes dilate and they blink less often when looking at you. Their voice is softer or more gentler. Sometimes even speaking slower. They seem to smile more often and would laugh at your jokes even if they’re not that funny. They hear what you have to say without missing much. If you’re talking, it’s like a free excuse to stare at you without seeming creepy/rude. This is for both men and women. Yes, sometimes women want to avoid being creepy. There’s also the quick glances someone else mentions. The looking up and down thing some people do only after they find your face attractive enough. I can list more but this is the gist.

    And because this is the internet. Not all of these signs are 100% and not everyone will relate.

  53. Sunil_cto Avatar

    They try to be around you , you can feel sense of eagerness in everything .

  54. VelvetWhitehawk Avatar

    As someone who used to get more attention when I was younger, and now notices the deficit, it’s all about… attention.

    How long they hold eye contact. Asking questions about you is a big one. Laughing like you’re the funniest person ever. Touching you. Standing closer to you than is socially normal.

    Of course, none of these are guaranteed. It could be the way they act towards everyone. Plus these days people in general seem more shy, especially younger people (under 40).

    With younger people I have NO CLUE lol. I talked to a girl and got zero vibes. Then a friend said “she liked you.” So I pursued and dated her. But she didn’t give me many vibes that she was actually attracted to me, even tho we had sex!

    So sometimes it’s incredibly subtle, and you just have to trust your gut. Or your friends haha!

  55. Amy_Reddit01 Avatar

    If they keep sneaking glances at you.

  56. Substantial_Chip_381 Avatar

    They’ll tell you verbally lol

  57. MaXiMuM105 Avatar

    There is no real way to tell. I mean, you can never be sure…

  58. PotentialTurnover335 Avatar

    They laugh at your terrible jokes and remember random details about stuff you mentioned weeks ago. Also they find excuses to initiate physical contact; like touching your arm while laughing or “accidentally” bumping into you

  59. Former-Effort5748 Avatar

    Stares at you… then makes an excuse to come talk to you. Guy in my local supermarket. I smiled at him – he went red.

  60. BlindLullabyyy Avatar

    My rule of thumb when I was younger was that if I add them on facebook and they’re the one to initiate the conversation, there’s something there

  61. King-Stormin Avatar

    I’ve noticed some strangers drop items they’re holding when they look at you in passing. They just loose focus because they are interested in you and forget to grip their phone, keys, etc.

  62. AlarminglyConfused Avatar

    These threads are always bullshit and subjective to each individual. Ive experienced nearly every example given here and each time have been viciously rejected. But hey, the worst she can say is “no” right? 😂

  63. Practical_Average441 Avatar

    I grew up anxious with no confidence so never really thought of myself as attractive, as the years went on perhaps I’ve grown more confident and this can also add to attraction

  64. Least-Shift-answer Avatar

    As a guy, I see women’s glances linger longer initially or a double take. They laugh more at what I say. They brush their hair back, twitch their body in some way, or fiddle with something.

    I mostly ignore them because I’m in a relationship with my favorite woman already but sometimes I’ll engage them with the slightest flirting when I’m with my girlfriend to let her know she needs to stay on business because they are out there waiting still.

  65. want_chocolate Avatar

    Hard to say. Because experience has taught me that I’m not really attractive to anyone.

  66. DaintyBadass Avatar

    Their pupils will dilate when they see you.

  67. iOawe Avatar

    You get stared at alot

  68. Low_Stress_9180 Avatar

    I had a colleague once whisper in my ear to come with her, after we had a beer in a pub.

    That was a sign. Some women are more subtle but I prefer the direct type.

  69. spritz_bubbles Avatar

    They smile, stare at you a lot and compliment you or find reasons to talk to you.

  70. wild-comparison5789 Avatar

    Men usually tell me that they like me, they want to fuck me or they have a crush on me. It’s straight forward. For me I don’t pay much attention to body language coming from men. I don’t assume it is not safe lol if you’re unsure just ask.

  71. RespectNarrow450 Avatar

    They try to maintain eye contact and remember small details.

  72. Ancient_Apartment606 Avatar

    It’s like breathing, you just know.

  73. Legitimate_Bag8259 Avatar

    I hope not. Otherwise, it simply hasn’t happened yet.

  74. SuNNY__AheR Avatar

    When they come to me and say I like you or wanna have a drink. I’m very bad with hints.

  75. schwarzmalerin Avatar

    Creepy stares if it’s a stranger. If it’s someone known … Trying for body contact. Attempts to be alone.

  76. Alternative-Ease9674 Avatar

    My crush is a master sneaky fox. Lol. He seemed to be not interested at all but he remembered EVERY detail about me. Especially my phisique. Exact eye color, visible moles, details, clothes. Everything I said to him ever. He is cautious af, but I noticed strange hestiations when we talk. That is what I observed. He found some stupid excuses to contact me to help him with trouble. Now as thank you for my help he is inviting me for a weekend where he lives, as he says, it ins nice tourist town. Oh yeah my boy, is it? Well we will see… 2 days you said?… What about night in between 😆

  77. PygmyC-HorsesR-Cool Avatar

    I’m a woman and if I find a man attractive, I become all shy and avoid eye contact. If I do make eye contact, my face turns so red like a tomato. If he talks to me, either my brain goes blank or I say something stupid or trip over my words.

    If I see a woman that is attractive, I don’t mean that I fancy her but admire her good looks, the way she dresses etc, I will look at her, smile and compliment her.

  78. Jonny-Kast Avatar

    Well, for me, I usually find out weeks, months and even years too late. All those signs that are blatantly obvious to me now, weren’t back then. Missed out on some right good chances too 😔

  79. UnrequitedLove1996 Avatar

    They look at you generally. Lots of people look at you

  80. Ok_Tadpole7839 Avatar

    They will let you know.

  81. Alone_Psychology_464 Avatar

    I can only tell that women don’t find me attractive.