I’m glad my ugly middle aged ass experienced it at least once during an unexpected glow up. No one told me that your body–essentially your entire being–physically changes.
How common is it for a man to go through life without having a woman legitimately being attracted to you?
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I’m glad my ugly middle aged ass experienced it at least once during an unexpected glow up. No one told me that your body–your entire being–essentially changes.
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Part of getting to old.if lost my wife sure I be alone
I was a small cute guy once now I m old small bald over weight guy .
Like none at all through your whole life? Very rare. But there are people out there.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. It ain’t a good look and honestly think you’re too down on yourself.
Only once that you know of. You don’t know what other women think. You could pass by women and not know they think “His good looking”.
I was heavily teased as a teenager for being “ugly” and I choose to believe what the bullies said. I started ignoring all the proof that showed im not to some women. Few months ago, my 23 year old sister told me her 27 year old friend saw a image of me on my Facebook and said she thinks im attractive… went to see her FB profile out of curiosity and was surprised how attractive she was… kind of in disbelief that she found me attractive… so don’t be hard on yourself. You don’t really know.
And I honestly don’t think im all that good looking. I’m balding (recedding harline), a tiny bit of a dad bod belly. I ain’t no “chad” type of looking guy by any means.
I’m 29, riding a high from high school of the prettiest girl a grade below me being super into me. I ended up stuffing it up, but it’s a nice confidence boost and I have a relative idea, which I’m very grateful and appreciative, of a woman being genuinely attracted to me- won’t settle for less. In this day and age, I see a lot of people get together because it suits their circumstance rather than there being a genuine level of attraction- sometimes if there is a genuine level of attraction you see it fade especially when the woman becomes very disrespectful to their partner. Not saying it’s the woman’s fault- takes two to have a relationship
It’s something that’s impossible to quantify but I imagine that while it’s rare, it’s probably more common than most people want to believe. Some folks just don’t ever experience the right circumstances with the right people to even be perceived as desirable, let alone anything coming of it. I’m well down that road and don’t believe for a moment there will ever be someone who has more than fleeting, confused feelings of attraction for me. Just what it is.
A question I wonder myself, as a 33M who has still yet to experience what a kiss is like.
If you think you’re ugly.
If you think you’re attractive.
Chances are you’re right either way.
Getting a woman is far more mental than physical.
So far even the ugliest guy I know that had decent social iq has had so
eone attracted to them if not looks. But they dont count it because they were not attracted to the people attracted to them. So technically very very unlikely unless you are not counting one sided attraction. Cause even an ugly dude wants a pretty girl, even though the people that are attracted to them are not pretty.
I’m not saying it’s never happened, but if anyone’s been attracted to me they’ve never made it known.
33, women are only friendly when they want something from me, and once they have it they go back to treating me like shit. I’ve gotten used to it.
I think there is someone for everyone. I seen a meth addict singing to his girl on here and I’m not judging them or making fun of them. It just goes to show there is someone for everyone.
Hot? High. Attractive? Low.
Probably pretty common considering most of the world is Indian
I don’t think it’s very likely at all, but a lot of guys have attitudes that hurt them.
I couldn’t tell you if I’ve ever been truly loved as I’ve been used too many times
Hopefully I get a glow up before I hit retirement age, assuming I live that long.
Well, I’m almost 60 and been married for 29 years with two kids and I’m property sure that I’m still going through that. I think maybe my wife was attracted to me for about 4 years so maybe my example doesn’t quite count.
I’d say pretty rare, and that it would be more a case of no woman expressing attraction to you, not one never being attracted to you.
Even people who are unattractive find love, marry, and have unattractive children.
I think its pretty common. I talk to lots of guys and most get no attention at all.
That is the base male experience.
Nobody told you that your body changes? Did you think old people just came like that?
I thnk it’s uncommon.
But I suspect it does happen sometimes. There’s a pretty wide variation in personal attractiveness between humans.In addition some of us are just not very nice.
As a 42 year old….It hasn’t happened here yet.
40 year old guy here. Ive been in relationships, been with probably way more people than I should have any right to, but I still live every day assuming that no woman has genuinely ever been attracted to me. I assume that anyone that’s ever been with me was with me because they were desperate, lonely, or had an ulterior motive, and NOT because they were attracted to me
Given how often I hear men claim that women just ‘aren’t visual like men are,’ I’d say it’s depressingly common.
I’m so sorry to read this post!! I’m a 65 yr old female who was never beautiful but has a good personality. I met a gorgeous man and we’ve been married for 40 yrs! After this long a life, I can say I really have seen some odd-looking couples, which makes me truly believe there is someone for everyone. Seriously, if you are not typically good looking, do what you can to be attractive: be and smell clean, keep your teeth healthy and straight. Spend money on dental work if possible! No excuse today for teeth that are yellow. Keep your breath fresh. Smile and laugh appropriately! Walk upright, head up! The most attractive attribute in a man is CONFIDENCE! Not smugness. Speak well of others or not at all. Compliment a person honestly (great shirt bro! Amy, I like how you helped that older lady”) Don’t make everything all about you. Be kind but not a wuss. ACT AS IF. (I’m a catch! ). Be kind. Remember, a potential partner or date might spend time observing you without you knowing it!! My final tip: If possible, rescue a cute dog and take it to public places where women can see you being loving to your pet. Dogs are chick magnets!!!! Really! You got this!
I can still remember each of the three hugs I’ve received from women not related to me.
A lot more common than people like to admit. And to be fair, who would want to admit to being a life long loser outside of an anonymous platform?
Wrong question. You should ask yourself, what do I need to do to attract women. The comments on this thread are fuc*ing depressing. Hit the gym, dress nice, get a haircut, be confident. It’s not that hard.
I’d say extremely rare.