How common is it to delete/un-match once you start texting outside the app?

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I recently matched with a guy on Bumble and we chatted for a bit before exchanging numbers. We’ve been texted pretty consistently for a few days but when I went to show my friend his profile, he wasn’t in my matches. My friend group is a little split on it as it isn’t really something women tend to do. Have you done this before? Any insight is appreciated!

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  1. Em1-_- Avatar

    I don’t tend to move outside of dating apps until after a few dates, but unmatching is common from what i’ve seen in OLD subreddits, it is mostly so the people they match with can’t see what they are up to or they deleted the profile to create it again to make use of the boosts some apps give to new accounts.

    If the conversation outside the app is going well you shouldn’t pay much attention to that.

  2. RickyRacer2020 Avatar

    Many people sound okay on sites but once more is known about them, it’s a deal breaker.  After all, most folks are omitting info, masking or lying about themselves on hookup sites. They’re often on the hookup sites because IRL, they’re a mess.

  3. Shatter4468 Avatar

    Not often. I’ll delete the app after talking for a while with a woman but I won’t even open the app if I’m jusr talking to someone much less unmatch them.

    My best guess Is he isn’t interested.

  4. Worried_Bit_2471 Avatar

    Yep done it a few times before, just means that im giving you more attention, and don’t see the need to have you on the app anymore because it’s becoming more personal

  5. TwoSolariums Avatar

    I do. Conversely, showing friends our matches isn’t really something men tend to do, so not unmatching hadn’t occurred to me. I just like a clean list of people I’m actively interacting with on the app.

  6. whordeum_sp Avatar

    >when I went to show my friend his profile

    >My friend group is a little split on it

    Shameless behavior, disturbing even

    >he wasn’t in my matches

    Smart guy. 

    Guess he didnt wanna be featured on ur friends hot/not game.

    Dating apps are a landmine of sociopaths and depraved individuals. Their egos inflated to dangerous proportions.

    Trust your instincts and protect yourselves. Always unmatch.

  7. Prof_Scott_Steiner Avatar

    50/50 common.

    Some look at it like “if they’re a nut job, I don’t wsnt them to have access to me, and if it works out, what does it matter if I delete them on an app when we’d be dating?”