I finally found a partner that I like having sex with. Up until now, I felt like there was a part of me who was just doing it to be liked? Like, I was supposed to be doing it and liking it. But it really felt like it was a chore, like it was fake or performative, and I hated it. It didn’t feel like I was being true to myself. I actually became disgusted with sex.
Now, I can actually like and enjoy sex and not worry about getting pregnant. A win win win.
But lighter periods on the implant meant more sex because whilst I’m not averse to period sex I have fibroids and ebdo and nobidy wants sex when it would leave an entire crime scene.
We came off it for trying for a baby and honestly? Initially great but infertility and trying for a while is a drag that can totally affect your sex life. 0/10 i do not recommend.
I started taking the pill when I was a teenager because I had been dating a guy for a long time and it was starting to get serious. I ended up marrying that guy eventually and we’re still happily married almost a decade later.
I will also say that after starting the pill I remember feeling super irritable for 2-3 months but that evened out with time. My libido decreased slightly but not significantly.
Hormonal bc (pills) lowered my libido, but it didn’t change how I look at him. When he got a vasectomy and it was his idea cause it’s way less invasive than other permanent forms of contraception, he got even more attractive to me.
It didn’t. I have been on hormonal birth control the entirely of our 22 year relationship with the exception of about 10 months in my early 20s (insurance stopped covering what I used and I couldn’t afford others and then Obama care passed and I was able to go back on it). And again for about 13 months 9 years ago when we were trying for a kid + pregnant + 2 months post partum to get IUD out in.
At all times he has been disastrously sexy to me and I’ve been disgustingly in love with him. Even during the hard times. On many, many occasions one of us has said to the other “I’m still mad at you, but I want cuddles.”
While I dont see this man anymore, he is the one man I allowed to go condomless with me. I prefered that he was a little extra clingly with me when he got off. I noticed my libido spiked massively when I switched from the combined pill to the mini pill.
It made me decide he wasn’t a marriage prospect, because he thought it was my job to suffer to prevent him from experiencing any consequences to his actions.
But I’m the one stuck going through pregnancy if there’s any mishaps, so I deal with contraception most of the time. If a guy I’m seeing doesn’t like that I’m using it, he can kick rocks.
I noticed taking it made my sense of smell change. Like id go from liking how they smelled to being absolutely disgusted by it, which would usually lead to a break up. Thats the only change it caused
Honestly, once I got on birth control, my libido dropped hard and I didn’t expect that. It kinda messed with how I felt toward my partner—like I still loved him, but the spark felt… dulled. I didn’t realize how much hormones could shift attraction or even how connected I felt during intimacy. Took a while to figure out it wasn’t him, it was the meds. Switching types helped, but yeah—it definitely affected how I saw and felt about everything.
View? Didn’t change that. But NOT being on the pill (no hormones in my system) made me horny as hell. He became much more attractive when I was ovulating 😉
I have the Skyla IUD, it hasn’t affected my libido in anyway. Also have seldom to no periods so I’m intimate with my partner often. Getting sterilized soon and I’m pretty excited about that so I will never have to worry about kids again,
I was on the pill from 18 through 26ish, and depo for four months after. As soon as I got off birth control, I found my ex almost repulsive emotionally and mentally. Like, I couldn’t find anything redeeming about him. He wasn’t unattractive, but his smell changed and everything about his personality put me off. For example, him starting a political argument about any of my opinions didn’t intrigue me anymore, it just pissed me off. Or his hyper-masculinity came off as insecure than manly.
For some reason, something in me changed but I don’t know exactly what, if that makes sense
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It makes me more interested in sex with them. Consequence free sex is my jam.
I finally found a partner that I like having sex with. Up until now, I felt like there was a part of me who was just doing it to be liked? Like, I was supposed to be doing it and liking it. But it really felt like it was a chore, like it was fake or performative, and I hated it. It didn’t feel like I was being true to myself. I actually became disgusted with sex.
Now, I can actually like and enjoy sex and not worry about getting pregnant. A win win win.
It didn’t. I dont notice any difference in libido or viewing of my partner with contraception. Lack thereof (aka children) however…
If they weren’t willing to use it, they no longer were my partner
It…didn’t? It’s an obvious non-negotiable, so when we were ready for sexy times, we used it. What a strange question.
No change.
But lighter periods on the implant meant more sex because whilst I’m not averse to period sex I have fibroids and ebdo and nobidy wants sex when it would leave an entire crime scene.
We came off it for trying for a baby and honestly? Initially great but infertility and trying for a while is a drag that can totally affect your sex life. 0/10 i do not recommend.
I was no longer attracted to my husband at the time. He repulsed me.
I started taking the pill when I was a teenager because I had been dating a guy for a long time and it was starting to get serious. I ended up marrying that guy eventually and we’re still happily married almost a decade later.
I will also say that after starting the pill I remember feeling super irritable for 2-3 months but that evened out with time. My libido decreased slightly but not significantly.
Hormonal bc (pills) lowered my libido, but it didn’t change how I look at him. When he got a vasectomy and it was his idea cause it’s way less invasive than other permanent forms of contraception, he got even more attractive to me.
It made me want to have more intimacy with him because the fear of pregnancy was gone forever.
My libido was definitely lower, but that was not a reflection on my partner.
It didn’t. I have been on hormonal birth control the entirely of our 22 year relationship with the exception of about 10 months in my early 20s (insurance stopped covering what I used and I couldn’t afford others and then Obama care passed and I was able to go back on it). And again for about 13 months 9 years ago when we were trying for a kid + pregnant + 2 months post partum to get IUD out in.
At all times he has been disastrously sexy to me and I’ve been disgustingly in love with him. Even during the hard times. On many, many occasions one of us has said to the other “I’m still mad at you, but I want cuddles.”
No change
While I dont see this man anymore, he is the one man I allowed to go condomless with me. I prefered that he was a little extra clingly with me when he got off. I noticed my libido spiked massively when I switched from the combined pill to the mini pill.
It made me decide he wasn’t a marriage prospect, because he thought it was my job to suffer to prevent him from experiencing any consequences to his actions.
Libido plummets with birth control.
It’s not negotiable.
But I’m the one stuck going through pregnancy if there’s any mishaps, so I deal with contraception most of the time. If a guy I’m seeing doesn’t like that I’m using it, he can kick rocks.
I noticed taking it made my sense of smell change. Like id go from liking how they smelled to being absolutely disgusted by it, which would usually lead to a break up. Thats the only change it caused
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Honestly, once I got on birth control, my libido dropped hard and I didn’t expect that. It kinda messed with how I felt toward my partner—like I still loved him, but the spark felt… dulled. I didn’t realize how much hormones could shift attraction or even how connected I felt during intimacy. Took a while to figure out it wasn’t him, it was the meds. Switching types helped, but yeah—it definitely affected how I saw and felt about everything.
View? Didn’t change that. But NOT being on the pill (no hormones in my system) made me horny as hell. He became much more attractive when I was ovulating 😉
I’m bi and find myself significantly more attracted to masc people on bc
Hormonal? Crushed my libido and gave me headaches. I was miserable.
Non-hormonal? Much better. Less impact on quality of life (condoms are at least a bit uncomfortable, no matter what), no impact on libido.
It didn’t change how I saw him but it made things feel easier and safer. Less stress meant I could relax more, so my libido actually went up a bit.
Lowered my sex drive which made me think way more logically.
I have the Skyla IUD, it hasn’t affected my libido in anyway. Also have seldom to no periods so I’m intimate with my partner often. Getting sterilized soon and I’m pretty excited about that so I will never have to worry about kids again,
My libido crashed. Badly.
It didn’t. We were always on the same page about it.
I was on the pill from 18 through 26ish, and depo for four months after. As soon as I got off birth control, I found my ex almost repulsive emotionally and mentally. Like, I couldn’t find anything redeeming about him. He wasn’t unattractive, but his smell changed and everything about his personality put me off. For example, him starting a political argument about any of my opinions didn’t intrigue me anymore, it just pissed me off. Or his hyper-masculinity came off as insecure than manly.
For some reason, something in me changed but I don’t know exactly what, if that makes sense
My libido went up significantly