How did it go when an ex lover realized too late that they’ve lost someone great?
How did it go when an ex lover realized too late that they’ve lost someone great?
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How did it go when an ex lover realized too late that they’ve lost someone great?
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Haha he was quite emotional about it, but honestly I felt nothing by the time I actually broke up with him. He realized he lost someone great and I realized that I deserve better. But it’s been over a decade now and we’re both happy in different relationships:)
As the one he lost, I felt great and free! After almost year he kept trying to find ways to come back though. There were many times I was almost manipulated to get back with him but the feeling of being free from the pain was so addictive. I finally felt like a huge weight was off my chest and I could breathe again.
His efforts to reach out to me are funny stories I like to share with my friends from time to time 😂 and now I’m in such a good place to reciprocate love that’s meant for me. Best feeling ever!
You can also tell they know they lost someone great when the person they lost is thriving and doing better. While they’re left in that cycle repeating the same shit over and over again. Personally, I wish him all the best now. Good luck to whoever he’s with too!
I almost died
Since I’m friends with almost all of my exes, I can say that some of them have mentioned things like “it would be great if my new GF did X thing you did”, but not in an “I wish we could get back together” way if that’s what you’re asking.
I feel compelled to mention that I don’t do drama so my breakups were adult conversations about things not working out, no resentments. I still exchange holiday/birthday greetings and an occasional “how’s life” with my first lover (from 23 years ago).
I don’t know, I am not on speaking terms with him. Funny how someone can say they love you more than anything but not think of “love” as something you do with your actions.
I take particular joy in this topic. I had an ex who I was really serious about in my early 20s. We were together for 6 years. Turns out that he wasn’t as serious about me and there were lots of not very good things (cheating, lying, avoidant behavior, depression, a humiliating fake proposal, drug use on his end) that led to our eventual breakup at age 26. For that first year post-breakup, I was a mess. I eventually got myself together and became someone I’m very proud to be. At age 33, I’m now living my best life married to someone who is my everything and we’re building a great life together as childfree dog parents.
Now, my ex has gone on to live his own life but we stayed in touch over the years because we have the same friend group. Before I left my country he had tried to start things up again by asking if we could try again and maybe have a kid together. I let him know in no uncertain terms that that will never happen and I’m not interested in that. I’ve moved overseas and then heard from him over IG years later. He figured out that I’m married now and had a bit of a hard time accepting it. He tried to make me feel like I had moved on too quickly and was casting shade. I told him that he too would find his person once he loved himself enough. He didn’t like that and too bad. That was that.
I’ve now blocked him and feel great that I finally stood up for myself. I’m very happy to have grown into the person that can stand up for herself and knows her worth now because my someone special gave their love and support to help me get to this point.