How did it work out when you told a man that his sexualised comments were making you uncomfortable?
How did it work out when you told a man that his sexualised comments were making you uncomfortable?
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How did it work out when you told a man that his sexualised comments were making you uncomfortable?
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I’ve never had that convo. Calling out men who act like that makes no difference. Ignore and move on
I never tell them, because to me thats too passive and BORING and im an actual sadist
I instead take that uncomfortable energy I have and, like an alchemist, transmute it into a high-pressure tank of ways im going to slowly erode his ego over time by strategically releasing the spigot, all without him knowing that im doing it too!
Because so many dudes genuinely believe you if you say “Haha, no its no problem!” and they’ll even keep sharing their personal secrets with you!
Sometimes it can be good to ask them what they mean by that. Pretend you really don’t understand and make them explain. This is really good when other people are around.
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I straight up told him he’s sleezy and his comments were making me uncomfortable. He cut it out immediately. Me and this guys relationship was over by this point so I didn’t care how he took it, but it was the wake up call I was proud to give him about his “flirting”.
They’ve taken it as a rejection and remove friendship, companionship, positive regard, or a degree of emotional intimacy (depending on the relationship).
Ideally they would have felt a bit embarrassed but prioritized my comfort rather than their ego but it is what it is I guess.
They stopped and it never happened again. I was firm with it and I was not joking around when I said it too. They were judged heavily and they felt that
They stopped talking to me and started avoiding me. Fucking idiots.
They stopped for maybe half an hour before it started up again. Being blunt about my discomfort, saying nothing, getting upset and leaving, he legitimately wouldn’t cut the shit out.
I don’t talk to him anymore, and last I heard he was mad I “wasn’t blunt enough with him.” My ass.
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