Relationships are a two way street. You don’t go into a relationship being naieve expecting it will be easy breezy. If there wasn’t any issues, you’d be dating a clone of yourself. No two people are the same
My patience is directly related to how I AM FEELING.
When I’m in a good headspace, I find it easy to judge her behavior by her intentions (which are almost always good) even when what she is doing/saying is really irritating.
When I’m not in a good headspace, I snap at the behavior.
So, in answer to your question, I try to do a quick check of what her intentions are and how my state of mind is affecting my response. Take a few deep breaths and engage based on what she is trying to say, not what she is actually saying.
She had a past, and a child and people treated her like a dick blanket because of it. Told me she didn’t want that life anymore and she’d be patient with someone like me. Take things slow, zero drama.
It was bliss. I celebrated her. Celebrated her a little too much the point she decided to get out of retirement to do a comeback tour of her old life…
36 years later, it’s simply just more peaceful and easier if I just keep my mouth shut. Let the annoying stuff go. It is what it is. I signed up for it.
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I come patient. She gives me no reason to change
Most of the time I’m good, but occasionally I have to remind myself of the crap she is putting up with at the same time.
Relationships are a two way street. You don’t go into a relationship being naieve expecting it will be easy breezy. If there wasn’t any issues, you’d be dating a clone of yourself. No two people are the same
My patience is directly related to how I AM FEELING.
When I’m in a good headspace, I find it easy to judge her behavior by her intentions (which are almost always good) even when what she is doing/saying is really irritating.
When I’m not in a good headspace, I snap at the behavior.
So, in answer to your question, I try to do a quick check of what her intentions are and how my state of mind is affecting my response. Take a few deep breaths and engage based on what she is trying to say, not what she is actually saying.
If u r brimming with love for her… U end up surprising urself how patient u can get …but with time it gets better
I never got the chance to.
She had a past, and a child and people treated her like a dick blanket because of it. Told me she didn’t want that life anymore and she’d be patient with someone like me. Take things slow, zero drama.
It was bliss. I celebrated her. Celebrated her a little too much the point she decided to get out of retirement to do a comeback tour of her old life…
36 years later, it’s simply just more peaceful and easier if I just keep my mouth shut. Let the annoying stuff go. It is what it is. I signed up for it.
Experience and time together, further augmented by the teachings of my parents alongside the tragedies befalling others around me as I grew up.