I see so many posts where people break up after the honeymoon phase. How did you get past this to the next phase?
How did you get through the first phase of love with your partner?
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I see so many posts where people break up after the honeymoon phase. How did you get past this to the next phase?
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It’s a cliché for a reason, but communication. After our first big fight at the end of the honeymoon phase in our marriage we waited for both of us to calm down & we talked it out. We both of took uninterrupted turns telling the other how we felt and possible solutions to our problem. After that we talked about a compromise that benefited both of our positions and moved on. The biggest thing I can stress is communication, don’t let issues build so much pressure that they eventually explode over something stupid, we learned a valuable lesson that night.
It was very natural… And both of us prefer the more long term and calm type of love that came after too.
I’d say the people who break up during the transition or shortly afterwards are usually ones who constantly need or want “sparks” or some “drama” in their relationship. Kind of how books need something to happen every 10 pages to keep your attention, or tv sitcoms/soaps need the keep that tension by introducing a small obstacle every 2-5 episodes.
People who (mistakenly) view stable, calmness, and comfort in a relationship as “boring”…. Will have difficulty. But my SO and I aren’t naturally like that… Plus our honeymoon phase was maybe 1.5-2.5years (ie. lasted long, so the transition was quite natural as opposed to a sharp change).
And also… both of us keep putting effort into ourselves, each other, and the relationship. We still flirt, go on dates, have fun, be silly, continuously do things and want to impress the other, etc. The effort and fun/flirtiness of the honeymoon phase is very much still there.
I am heartbroken so no comments 💔