I’m going back and forth on that question right now.
I’m recently married, and I chose this guy partly because I’ve seen him interact with children before. I want very much to have kids, and I know he’s going to be a great dad.
But I’m not sure if this is the right time to bring a child into the world. My husband and I are in discussion now about whether we want to start right away, or wait until the Fanta Menace is gone.
I’m especially concerned about my own bodily autonomy in case something goes wrong with the pregnancy.
Practically speaking, I knew my husband and I were in a financial position to support a child.
Emotionally, the draws of being childless and having the time and resources that come with that were no longer more appealing than the draws of starting a family, raising a child, etc. Currently sitting here exhausted while breastfeeding my 8 week old, and I stand by this being what I want to be doing. ♥️
Never wanted kids. Happened to fall in love with someone who already had sole custody of their own child (7 at the time we had our child). It then kind of had me toy with the idea that having the right partner could make me want to have a child of ‘my own’. After a few years of being together we talked about IVF and what steps it would take and cost. Now, IVF is very expensive and I just happened to have amazing health insurance which took the cost of all IVF, pregnancy appointments, and labor and delivery including NICU down to $6200 total. I think without allll the stars aligning, I never would have.
My husband and I both felt settled in our careers, had moved somewhere with more family support, and felt financially stable enough to take the leap.
6 months later I got pregnant, 3 months after that the COVID lockdown started. He got laid off within weeks, differing viewpoints on health and safety caused a huge rift with the family, and 6 months after the baby was born, I was told my position would be phased out. We were forced to totally reconfigure our entire life over the course of the pregnancy and my baby’s first year. We moved halfway around the world when he was 18 months.
Long story short: you can think you’re ready and have all of your ducks in a row, but you can never really know what’s coming. Our saving grace in all of the turmoil was a really strong foundation in our relationship. As hard as it’s been, I wouldn’t change any of it. I’m tremendously happy with how things have turned out and excited about where they’re going.
As my mother says, no one is ever truly ready for a baby. You just take the leap and figure out the rest as you go.
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I’m going back and forth on that question right now.
I’m recently married, and I chose this guy partly because I’ve seen him interact with children before. I want very much to have kids, and I know he’s going to be a great dad.
But I’m not sure if this is the right time to bring a child into the world. My husband and I are in discussion now about whether we want to start right away, or wait until the Fanta Menace is gone.
I’m especially concerned about my own bodily autonomy in case something goes wrong with the pregnancy.
Practically speaking, I knew my husband and I were in a financial position to support a child.
Emotionally, the draws of being childless and having the time and resources that come with that were no longer more appealing than the draws of starting a family, raising a child, etc. Currently sitting here exhausted while breastfeeding my 8 week old, and I stand by this being what I want to be doing. ♥️
Never wanted kids. Happened to fall in love with someone who already had sole custody of their own child (7 at the time we had our child). It then kind of had me toy with the idea that having the right partner could make me want to have a child of ‘my own’. After a few years of being together we talked about IVF and what steps it would take and cost. Now, IVF is very expensive and I just happened to have amazing health insurance which took the cost of all IVF, pregnancy appointments, and labor and delivery including NICU down to $6200 total. I think without allll the stars aligning, I never would have.
When I’ll be able to take a year off work. ✌🏼
My husband and I both felt settled in our careers, had moved somewhere with more family support, and felt financially stable enough to take the leap.
6 months later I got pregnant, 3 months after that the COVID lockdown started. He got laid off within weeks, differing viewpoints on health and safety caused a huge rift with the family, and 6 months after the baby was born, I was told my position would be phased out. We were forced to totally reconfigure our entire life over the course of the pregnancy and my baby’s first year. We moved halfway around the world when he was 18 months.
Long story short: you can think you’re ready and have all of your ducks in a row, but you can never really know what’s coming. Our saving grace in all of the turmoil was a really strong foundation in our relationship. As hard as it’s been, I wouldn’t change any of it. I’m tremendously happy with how things have turned out and excited about where they’re going.
As my mother says, no one is ever truly ready for a baby. You just take the leap and figure out the rest as you go.