How did you know you were being emotionally manipulated? And what were some key factors that made it known?
How did you know you were being emotionally manipulated? And what were some key factors that made it known?
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How did you know you were being emotionally manipulated? And what were some key factors that made it known?
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When I started keeping a journal of what was said between us, the gaslighting came to light.
Hearing things like “It’s ME though”
Questioning my boundaries over and over and over again
Gaslighting me
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With my ex, it was making everything about him.
I roll over to go to sleep? I must be mad at him.
I don’t want sex? I must not be attracted to him.
I want to hang out with my friends? I’m prioritizing my friends over him.
I spend money on myself and not him? I must not care enough.
I want to spend time with my family? I must not like his.
It’s a really good question—and one people usually start asking when something already feels off. If you’re wondering whether you’re being emotionally manipulated, that might be a sign in itself. The biggest red flags for me were when I started feeling like my needs were unreasonable, even though they were basic. And when every conflict somehow turned into my fault—even when I hadn’t done anything.
Sometimes the only way you know is when you hear your own story out loud and think, “Wait… why does this sound like I’m apologizing for having feelings?”
If this is personal for you—trust your gut. It usually knows before your brain catches up.
Being gaslit. I started to keep pictures and wrote myself a note between what I said and what I did. When I can see a trend, I knew that I was being taken for a ride.
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When he tried to gaslight me into believing that he didn’t take the last of our money out of our account when I had the transaction pulled up on the computer. It was literally right there for both of us to see and he just expected me to believe him! I laughed in his face HARD and he got so pissed that I wouldn’t just shut up and submit to him that it scared me. I moved out not tong after. We tried to work things out, but he simply couldn’t be in a relationship in which he was expected to be honest. Lying was his default. Made me absolutely intolerant of deception. I won’t stand for it anymore.
for me, when it first started happening it honestly felt SO painfully obvious (like exactly what you see on tv) that i thought, “there’s no way you’re actually trying this” and “there’s no way he actually thinks i’m going to fall for that” but he remained persistent 🙂↕️ and over time my questioning of him and his audacity, turned into me questioning myself.
somewhere along the way I did in fact, fall for it.