Backup of the post’s body: I (26F) just moved in with my BF (28M) 6 months ago and there has been so much more bad than good. Any time there’s something important for me, there’s always a push back or a problem or an issue or a spat.
Events that have been a problem:
•my birthday
•my parents birthday
•a work trip that he got to come along on
•an award recognition night for me
•a game night
•Thanksgiving
•Dinner with my family friends
At first, I gave him the benefit of the doubt with him having a year long project at work that was really stressful and that had him doing 60 hour weeks. (The kicker is that I easily work 80 hour weeks often and still make sure to make time for his things) Now that the project is done and I know he has more free time/time to relax, there is still the constant push back. The person I feel like I should lean on when something big is happening in my life just adds on more stress.
If you broke up with someone you lived with, what did you do?
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Relationships are supposed to feel like a safe place, not another item on your stress list. You’ve been showing up with effort he’s been showing up with excuses. It’s okay to outgrow someone who refuses to grow with you.
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Backup of the post’s body: I (26F) just moved in with my BF (28M) 6 months ago and there has been so much more bad than good. Any time there’s something important for me, there’s always a push back or a problem or an issue or a spat.
Events that have been a problem:
•my birthday
•my parents birthday
•a work trip that he got to come along on
•an award recognition night for me
•a game night
•Thanksgiving
•Dinner with my family friends
At first, I gave him the benefit of the doubt with him having a year long project at work that was really stressful and that had him doing 60 hour weeks. (The kicker is that I easily work 80 hour weeks often and still make sure to make time for his things) Now that the project is done and I know he has more free time/time to relax, there is still the constant push back. The person I feel like I should lean on when something big is happening in my life just adds on more stress.
If you broke up with someone you lived with, what did you do?
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Relationships are supposed to feel like a safe place, not another item on your stress list. You’ve been showing up with effort he’s been showing up with excuses. It’s okay to outgrow someone who refuses to grow with you.