I’ve always wondered that myself. With other things you’re allowed to fail and make mistakes. That’s exactly how you learn. But with flirting, a guy can easily be labeled “weird, inappropriate, creepy, etc.” if he makes a mistake or misreads a social cue. Any failure is shamed, lambasted, demonized, etc. So how does he possibly go through a learning process?
I’m terrible at flirting. But I remember reading that humour is quite universally and attractive trait though so I guess it’s generally an all round good thing to be funny. But my advice really is just be yourself and have fun and you’ll attract the same energy and types of people
It’s mostly just banter aka teasing, creating moments of sexual tension and sometimes something a little more direct, like physical contact or direct comments about how the person looks.
Monkey see monkey do. Just find some examples and you try shit. It’s how most people learn.
The secret is eye contact. If a woman is slightly into you and you hold eye contact just a beat or two more than feels natural, she will blush and feel very intimate.
Unbroken eye contact is basically what defines flirting. Say anything to someone with a confident smile and without breaking eye contact and it becomes flirtatious. “Here are the numbers you asked me about earlier.” Signs it’s going well include preening behaviors (adjusting hair or clothes to try to look nicer), playful teasing, and a genuine smile when they see you.
Some women blush, but mostly that’s an anime thing, lol. It’s not usually super hard to tell when someone is attracted to you. Think of how NOT captivating you are. If someone is super interested in you and holds your eye contact, it’s probably bc they find you attractive.
There’s a book called “how to read a person like a book.” It’s old by now and highly unscientific. It’s also mostly right in my opinion.
A skil i dont have, its called creepy if they have no interest back.. i found the numbers were very high (100%) on “no interest” so i never bothered to learn the skill as it wasnt required. ive seen others do it and doesnt seem to take long to go from flirting to a date when finding out what they did in the evening or weekend.
I get overwhelmed talking to girls if I’m approaching them to flirt. So if I see a girl I think is cute, I just spark a normal conversation. I talk about her interests, make eye contact, and I naturally just say things that slowly turn into flirting.
I think it’s mostly when I feel similar energy coming from the girl. We’re social creatures, I think we naturally pick up on voice changes and inflections and I do the same thing. It’s not a manual process, it just happens.
1.) Make fun of yourself, and get them to laugh. If you know how to act mysterious and indifferent that’s a plus. (Walking out for an important call mid convo and coming back with no explanation, just sorry about that. They will ask questions, just say nothing important, business) 2.) Speak assumptive. Don’t ask “Can I buy you a drink”, say “I’m getting us shots, what’s your favorite?” 3.) This is the most important one. Ask questions, and shut the fuck up. I repeat SHUT THE FUCK UP. This is mental note time. This is converting the number acquisition to the text convo, and being able to recall small details.
When you ask questions, it forces someone to respond (never yes or no questions btw, always open ended unless it’s a specific need to know). Women like men who listen, and love to talk about themselves more. If she asks you one, answer briefly, and return another question. This is a sales technique that works so well I made a living training it. “How about you?” Is a question. “Tell me more about yourself” is an instruction to give you information that appears as a question, but it hits the brain different. You will keep control of the conversation, she will feel you are a great listener and you should be taking bullet points, repeating small bits back, while subtly turn your body their direction. It indicates attraction non verbally. You can tell who likes who in a room based on where their knees face when sitting in chairs.
Advanced flirting: poking fun at minor insecurities and telling someone you find it super attractive & unique.
Opening with a crazy ass line: “Hey..wanna see something funny? Me trying to talk to you. I’m terrible at it”. The balls of saying stuff like that works. I have told women I had a dick the size of a baby carrot mid convo. The laughter and questions you get from that type of stuff is incredible.
The truth is people really don’t remember what you say, ever. They always remember how you make them feel. If you make a woman feel like she’s the most beautiful important thing in the room in that moment and you do less talking and more listening you’ll have great success because in general they don’t give a fuck what we have to say anyways. Think about if you’ve ever heard a woman say I’m not really sure what it is about that guy, but I like him. This is how that happens. Go on grasshopper.
This was how I was growing up. I realized that I had no problems talking to beautiful girls so when I tried dating, I just talked to them like any other person. I never made it obvious I was flirting or wanted them so I got friend zoned a lot. I had built up such a good friendship that they didn’t see me as a romantic partner. Moving forward, I made it way more direct but made sure to not be overly forward either.
I never had anyone to teach me. After absorbing a lot of theory unnecessarily, I made a drastic change in life and got out of my comfort zone. This led to me doing things I was afraid of and unsure of. That’s where you grow. You have to understand the social dynamics between women and also in group dynamics.
I live by the principle in life that I am responsible for my own life in every form. Here are some things you should BURN into your BRAIN.
– Be mentally fit before you approach the topic of women
– Smile is the most effective way to flirt
– Don’t have a filter, say and do what you want, but be respectful
– You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You only have yourself to answer to!
– Be clear about exactly what you want
The person who is happiest and most fulfilled is also the most attractive. Energy is the key word. Be wise about who you share your energy with
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I teased and touched a lot more and became Superman
Compliments go a long way. Tell her she’s pretty, smart, funny, whatever. Make her feel good. You learn that stuff through trial and error
I’ve always wondered that myself. With other things you’re allowed to fail and make mistakes. That’s exactly how you learn. But with flirting, a guy can easily be labeled “weird, inappropriate, creepy, etc.” if he makes a mistake or misreads a social cue. Any failure is shamed, lambasted, demonized, etc. So how does he possibly go through a learning process?
I’m terrible at flirting. But I remember reading that humour is quite universally and attractive trait though so I guess it’s generally an all round good thing to be funny. But my advice really is just be yourself and have fun and you’ll attract the same energy and types of people
If you’re already good at holding conversations you’re 90% of the way there; now you just gotta work in some playfulness
It’s mostly just banter aka teasing, creating moments of sexual tension and sometimes something a little more direct, like physical contact or direct comments about how the person looks.
Monkey see monkey do. Just find some examples and you try shit. It’s how most people learn.
The secret is eye contact. If a woman is slightly into you and you hold eye contact just a beat or two more than feels natural, she will blush and feel very intimate.
I’ll let you know when it happens lol. Ive never quite mastered it.
Unbroken eye contact is basically what defines flirting. Say anything to someone with a confident smile and without breaking eye contact and it becomes flirtatious. “Here are the numbers you asked me about earlier.” Signs it’s going well include preening behaviors (adjusting hair or clothes to try to look nicer), playful teasing, and a genuine smile when they see you.
Some women blush, but mostly that’s an anime thing, lol. It’s not usually super hard to tell when someone is attracted to you. Think of how NOT captivating you are. If someone is super interested in you and holds your eye contact, it’s probably bc they find you attractive.
There’s a book called “how to read a person like a book.” It’s old by now and highly unscientific. It’s also mostly right in my opinion.
I realized flirting is just adding a bit of playfulness and subtle compliments to a good conversation making it light, fun, and a little personal
A skil i dont have, its called creepy if they have no interest back.. i found the numbers were very high (100%) on “no interest” so i never bothered to learn the skill as it wasnt required. ive seen others do it and doesnt seem to take long to go from flirting to a date when finding out what they did in the evening or weekend.
For me it just happens naturally.
I get overwhelmed talking to girls if I’m approaching them to flirt. So if I see a girl I think is cute, I just spark a normal conversation. I talk about her interests, make eye contact, and I naturally just say things that slowly turn into flirting.
I think it’s mostly when I feel similar energy coming from the girl. We’re social creatures, I think we naturally pick up on voice changes and inflections and I do the same thing. It’s not a manual process, it just happens.
I would go out with some buddies and they wouldn’t let me back in the car until I got a girl’s phone number lol
Watching TV and movies with guys who are good at it, it’s how I learned.
Discovered my power late in life. I was 21 before I really got the hang of it
I have no clue how flirting works, people just say stuff that has double meanings? So confusing.
46 here and still have no idea how to flirt. I have no problem conversing with the opposite sex but have never understood flirting.
Free game incoming.
1.) Make fun of yourself, and get them to laugh. If you know how to act mysterious and indifferent that’s a plus. (Walking out for an important call mid convo and coming back with no explanation, just sorry about that. They will ask questions, just say nothing important, business) 2.) Speak assumptive. Don’t ask “Can I buy you a drink”, say “I’m getting us shots, what’s your favorite?” 3.) This is the most important one. Ask questions, and shut the fuck up. I repeat SHUT THE FUCK UP. This is mental note time. This is converting the number acquisition to the text convo, and being able to recall small details.
When you ask questions, it forces someone to respond (never yes or no questions btw, always open ended unless it’s a specific need to know). Women like men who listen, and love to talk about themselves more. If she asks you one, answer briefly, and return another question. This is a sales technique that works so well I made a living training it. “How about you?” Is a question. “Tell me more about yourself” is an instruction to give you information that appears as a question, but it hits the brain different. You will keep control of the conversation, she will feel you are a great listener and you should be taking bullet points, repeating small bits back, while subtly turn your body their direction. It indicates attraction non verbally. You can tell who likes who in a room based on where their knees face when sitting in chairs.
Advanced flirting: poking fun at minor insecurities and telling someone you find it super attractive & unique.
Opening with a crazy ass line: “Hey..wanna see something funny? Me trying to talk to you. I’m terrible at it”. The balls of saying stuff like that works. I have told women I had a dick the size of a baby carrot mid convo. The laughter and questions you get from that type of stuff is incredible.
The truth is people really don’t remember what you say, ever. They always remember how you make them feel. If you make a woman feel like she’s the most beautiful important thing in the room in that moment and you do less talking and more listening you’ll have great success because in general they don’t give a fuck what we have to say anyways. Think about if you’ve ever heard a woman say I’m not really sure what it is about that guy, but I like him. This is how that happens. Go on grasshopper.
This was how I was growing up. I realized that I had no problems talking to beautiful girls so when I tried dating, I just talked to them like any other person. I never made it obvious I was flirting or wanted them so I got friend zoned a lot. I had built up such a good friendship that they didn’t see me as a romantic partner. Moving forward, I made it way more direct but made sure to not be overly forward either.
I never had anyone to teach me. After absorbing a lot of theory unnecessarily, I made a drastic change in life and got out of my comfort zone. This led to me doing things I was afraid of and unsure of. That’s where you grow. You have to understand the social dynamics between women and also in group dynamics.
I live by the principle in life that I am responsible for my own life in every form. Here are some things you should BURN into your BRAIN.
– Be mentally fit before you approach the topic of women
– Smile is the most effective way to flirt
– Don’t have a filter, say and do what you want, but be respectful
– You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You only have yourself to answer to!
– Be clear about exactly what you want
The person who is happiest and most fulfilled is also the most attractive. Energy is the key word. Be wise about who you share your energy with
The only difference between a genuinely good conversation and flirting is if the other party finds you attractive.