Its like living your teenage years all over again. It involves a self-discovery of doing things that youve always wanted to try. It only works if you dont go around telling family or friends your plans (in case they discourage you). Just start making a list of things you want to try, and check it off.
You transform your style, go get that tiny tattoo or dainty piercing, recommit to a religion if thats your thing, go to a concert of your favorite artist even if its by yourself, do a solo vacation, redecorate or paint your bedroom/home, get a certification. Follow your passions. Re-evaluate your religious or political beliefs toward what suits the older more developed you. Try therapy or get some self help books. Rearrange people in your life that more closely align with your values and passions. Consider a career change if it leaves you depleted emotionally. Join social clubs with hobbies you want to try. Commit yourself to a healthy work life balance by not pucking up extra shifts or limiting yourself to only working half of the week (if its possible)This is different from a bucket list, its moreso lifestyle changes committed to making yourself happy.
In the end, its like marrying yourself and the ultimate self care transformation. Theres less stress, more self confidence, and not as much of an urge to be loved/accepted by other people (if you set boundaries and keep these changes private). Youre eventually able to see which people in your life are true supporters or validation vampires that discourage you. Its also a natural way to pivot away from addiction because theres less of a need to overindulge in unhealthy things as a coping mechanism from long-term stress.
Your purpose is always there you just have to pull away from the need for external approval and purge fear of doing new thing. In life your heart is what guides you, your brain (logic) just self corrects to help you make reasonable decisions.
That was me at one point, I fixed this by just doing whatever I wanted, I stopped living for other people, stopped living to make others happy and just went full on selfish mode
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It started with small goals—just one thing a day to build momentum. Over time, those little wins added up and gave life direction.
Its like living your teenage years all over again. It involves a self-discovery of doing things that youve always wanted to try. It only works if you dont go around telling family or friends your plans (in case they discourage you). Just start making a list of things you want to try, and check it off.
You transform your style, go get that tiny tattoo or dainty piercing, recommit to a religion if thats your thing, go to a concert of your favorite artist even if its by yourself, do a solo vacation, redecorate or paint your bedroom/home, get a certification. Follow your passions. Re-evaluate your religious or political beliefs toward what suits the older more developed you. Try therapy or get some self help books. Rearrange people in your life that more closely align with your values and passions. Consider a career change if it leaves you depleted emotionally. Join social clubs with hobbies you want to try. Commit yourself to a healthy work life balance by not pucking up extra shifts or limiting yourself to only working half of the week (if its possible)This is different from a bucket list, its moreso lifestyle changes committed to making yourself happy.
In the end, its like marrying yourself and the ultimate self care transformation. Theres less stress, more self confidence, and not as much of an urge to be loved/accepted by other people (if you set boundaries and keep these changes private). Youre eventually able to see which people in your life are true supporters or validation vampires that discourage you. Its also a natural way to pivot away from addiction because theres less of a need to overindulge in unhealthy things as a coping mechanism from long-term stress.
Your purpose is always there you just have to pull away from the need for external approval and purge fear of doing new thing. In life your heart is what guides you, your brain (logic) just self corrects to help you make reasonable decisions.
That was me at one point, I fixed this by just doing whatever I wanted, I stopped living for other people, stopped living to make others happy and just went full on selfish mode
Bought things that made me happy
Went places that made me happy
Only hung out with people that made me happy
And now life is great.