I’m torn between feeling offended and I guess annoyed? We ended things 3 months ago yet he pops us asking to hang out again….he initially stated he missed the old times but he was finally honest and admitted he missed the sex. Has anyone been in a situation like this? If so how did you respond/feel?
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Didn’t reply. Idc
It’s not friends with benefits if you aren’t actually friends. That means you hang out even without the sex. .sounds like this dude thinks of it as casual sex. Tell him to jog on.
I’d feel like a powerful hot piece of ass as I delete the message and block the number with no response.
Why did you cut things off 3 months ago? Context is important here. Did one of you get a boyfriend/girlfriend? Start sleeping with someone else? Or you guys just got bored of each other? I have a FWB who we never cut things off, we just go radio silent for 2-3 months and then hook up again. No hard feelings or drama, we just have different lives.
Have you set boundaries and clarified that you’re not interested and would prefer he not reach out? Alternatively, you can just block him if this is a “friendship” you don’t care to maintain and it’s becoming bothersome for you.
This has happened to me. After seeing each other for a bit the person moved to another country and basically said we’d never see each other again. When he popped back up in my city a year later saying he’d moved back and asked if I wanted to “grab a drink”, I was honestly pissed off and told him as much. Never spoke to each other again
“There’s nothing left for us to say to each other.”
Probably had this happen more times than I can remember. It was an ego boost and depending on my mood and where I was at I either entertained it or didn’t
I’d reply “lol” or nothing at all
That’s the only time I ghost
Did you catch feelings for him? I’m a bit confused about you feeling offended by him wanting to hook up when that’s what your relationship was. Did things end poorly between you two? Perhaps more context would provide better feedback!
They all come back sniffing around eventually, don’t they? It’s up to you to feel how you want to feel about it. Flattered? Offended? Disgusted? Aroused?
But I don’t think you should be surprised. I suspect most women with a sexual history have had this experience.
Yep. I thought—and I guess this is indicative of my own hubris—the reaching out was a pretext to an apology for well, things. But it wasn’t (of course), and I was starkly reminded of how very low his opinion of me was. 🤷🏻♀️
Why is it offensive that he missed the sex when that is the point of a FWB situation?
It sounds like she either caught feelings or he started seeing someone as she is feeling conflicted. Either way, if he is cheating on someone or you caught feelings, you should let it go because it will lead to someone getting hurt.
I’ve never once responded. I always leave everyone on read. Why bother?
One time one ex bf tried to get a rise out of me sending how he cheated on me during our relationship, which was news to me. Like, who cares? You’re somewhere in the past. I still simply left him on read without a reply. I don’t even bother blocking them because they are so unimportant
I had a FWB about a year ago, he “showed up” for more though – took me to a nice birthday dinner, brought me flowers at times- we were both like ok this could be more?? We were open to the same relationship dynamic. And then his communication suckeddddd and then he ghosted me when we had a plan one night. I gave him one more shot and was clear it was just about sex and i wouldn’t give him more and he had shitty communications again and that was it, told him don’t try again and he’s a waste of my time. I blocked his number.
He reached out over IG a few months later and i was early on with my current boyfriend, note we are non-mono so im open to having a FWB but ive improved my standards lol i simply responded with a “absolutely not.” And that was that.
I was offended because I was very obviously his second choice, and he only reached out to me when he realized his first choice wasn’t going to work.
So naturally, I slept with him. Because I am an idiot.
Decent friend, but at least I learned he’s not someone I want to date anyway
I don’t.
Blocked blocked blocked, no response, no explanation, no apologies and certainly no guilt. 😎
Tell him tbah you don’t miss the sex
I think you should ignore him
I would say ignore
We had sex, felt great
Most of the time, if it was determined that both of us were single or not in sexually exclusive relationships at that time, I was open to getting together and/or starting things up again if I was still attracted to them and things had not fizzled due to lack of mutual interest. I liked already knowing it was someone I would enjoy hanging out with and that we were sexually compatible. On the other hand, if they had exclusively partnered since we last got together and they were looking to hook up or restart things but while cheating on a partner, I would always decline.
The way I would turn on read receipts, read it, and then move on because whoooo does he think he is 😭 especially ending on a bad note.
I responded once HAHAHAHAHhhahah