Didn’t work out at all. The relationship only lasted under a year lol. Being with someone I have more in common with as always worked much better for me personally.
It worked for the most part. I read while he went to the gym. I shared a broader worldview with him than his small town gave him. He kept me grounded while I helped open him up emotionally. We took turns playing our music (country and rap) Our life goals lined up and we loved each other deeply. We were best friends.
Or biggest difference was that he liked to put his dick in other women and I didn’t like that so we weren’t very compatible after all.
I learned that you both have to be invested in learning about each other to make it work. In my case, he didn’t care about things that were important to me while I was trying to fit into his lifestyle.
Great! We love participating in each other’s hobbies that we never would have before. We balance each other out, sometimes drive each other up a wall but such is life. Opposites keep things interesting
Twenty years together and still going strong — the secret? Never trying to change each other, and always showing respect for one another as unique individuals. Love thrives when you grow side by side, not by molding someone to fit your own image.
I think it really depends on what are your “opposites”…
My SO and I are very different, big city in east asia / EU countryside, talkative introvert / quiet extrovert, INTP / ESFJ, dog / cat person, big family (siblings, many cousins / only child and few cousins), etcetc…
So on paper, pretty much exact polar opposites. But our general sense of morals, perspectives, ethics, politics, etcetc… are very much the same.
We’re very happily married and together for 7years. So it’s not super long term but it’s been great for us. We’re really compatible and get along so well it’s pretty unreal.
Depends on where the opposites are in place. My grandparents had a solid marriage for 70 years. Till death. Their core spiritual beliefs were aligned, as were their views on parenting and what a balanced relationship should look like, and they both enjoyed classical music and swing/big band music of the 1920s (their childhoods). They were from the era when women stayed home and raised the kids while the men worked, and a single income could provide for an entire family. Apart from those core commonalities I mentioned, they were opposites in almost every way. He loved red meat, she was vegetarian. He loved sports, and she hated sports but played piano in another room when he would watch his games. They liked different types of movies and tv shows, they read different types of books. He liked fiction such as Tolkien, and she only read health related material. He liked going to the race tracks, she didn’t. She liked theater, he didn’t. Opposites in most ways, but best friends, madly in love with each other who raised children and saw many grand and great grand babies in their lifetime. But they lived in different times, the world was different then. Social media didn’t exist until they were both well into their senior years. They bonded, they talked, they always talked about how their differences and different hobbies and social activities gave them plenty to talk about over dinner and kept their relationship interesting.
We are patient with our differences when things are rough or we are at a stalemate but apart from that, nothing ever made me evolve more as a person than being in this relationship.
So many things I thought mattered to me, which truly didn’t. You discover truths about yourself and the world and you question them on their fundamental purpose – so much bullshit is just removed from life, it’s amazing.
We are going strong and we love each other. We might not always like each other, but the love has grown every day, so has our faith in the relationship. Both have changed massively and we are sort of a culmination of the two personalities we both used to be while maintaining our original spark.
We were together for 5 years, but it was miserable. No shared interests was boring. We never spent time together, because what would we do? He wouldn’t watch TV or movies with me, which felt like it should be bare minimum. But our tastes didn’t match so he refused to watch anything with me. We sometimes went out to eat. Sometimes we talked.
I couldn’t go to concerts because he didn’t like my music but wouldn’t let me go alone.
I’m with someone now that is much more like me with several shared interests and am way happier.
We ended up getting married, and it’s going great, we both want something the other possesses. He wants to be more like me, and I want to be more like him. We’re responsible for different things in our marriage, and that delegation of duties works really well.
It can be challenging at times, as some decisions or points of view aren’t always aligned, but thanks to that, we don’t live in a relationship echo chamber. And since we share the same core values, we agree on the things that truly matter.
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Didn’t work out at all. The relationship only lasted under a year lol. Being with someone I have more in common with as always worked much better for me personally.
It worked for the most part. I read while he went to the gym. I shared a broader worldview with him than his small town gave him. He kept me grounded while I helped open him up emotionally. We took turns playing our music (country and rap) Our life goals lined up and we loved each other deeply. We were best friends.
Or biggest difference was that he liked to put his dick in other women and I didn’t like that so we weren’t very compatible after all.
I learned that you both have to be invested in learning about each other to make it work. In my case, he didn’t care about things that were important to me while I was trying to fit into his lifestyle.
Great! We love participating in each other’s hobbies that we never would have before. We balance each other out, sometimes drive each other up a wall but such is life. Opposites keep things interesting
Twenty years together and still going strong — the secret? Never trying to change each other, and always showing respect for one another as unique individuals. Love thrives when you grow side by side, not by molding someone to fit your own image.
Great, still here after 14 years 🙂
I’m really talkative and bubbly.
And my partner is really quiet and shy (in general)
It just works.
Ended really really great, over time we just gelled into one but still individuals.
Now we are very much alike, years didn’t make us drift apart, complete opposite.
It turned out we were similar after all.
I think it really depends on what are your “opposites”…
My SO and I are very different, big city in east asia / EU countryside, talkative introvert / quiet extrovert, INTP / ESFJ, dog / cat person, big family (siblings, many cousins / only child and few cousins), etcetc…
So on paper, pretty much exact polar opposites. But our general sense of morals, perspectives, ethics, politics, etcetc… are very much the same.
We’re very happily married and together for 7years. So it’s not super long term but it’s been great for us. We’re really compatible and get along so well it’s pretty unreal.
We’ll be celebrating 5 years married in July
Depends on where the opposites are in place. My grandparents had a solid marriage for 70 years. Till death. Their core spiritual beliefs were aligned, as were their views on parenting and what a balanced relationship should look like, and they both enjoyed classical music and swing/big band music of the 1920s (their childhoods). They were from the era when women stayed home and raised the kids while the men worked, and a single income could provide for an entire family. Apart from those core commonalities I mentioned, they were opposites in almost every way. He loved red meat, she was vegetarian. He loved sports, and she hated sports but played piano in another room when he would watch his games. They liked different types of movies and tv shows, they read different types of books. He liked fiction such as Tolkien, and she only read health related material. He liked going to the race tracks, she didn’t. She liked theater, he didn’t. Opposites in most ways, but best friends, madly in love with each other who raised children and saw many grand and great grand babies in their lifetime. But they lived in different times, the world was different then. Social media didn’t exist until they were both well into their senior years. They bonded, they talked, they always talked about how their differences and different hobbies and social activities gave them plenty to talk about over dinner and kept their relationship interesting.
He dumped me over text the first time I expressed dissatisfaction and suggested a change
We are patient with our differences when things are rough or we are at a stalemate but apart from that, nothing ever made me evolve more as a person than being in this relationship.
So many things I thought mattered to me, which truly didn’t. You discover truths about yourself and the world and you question them on their fundamental purpose – so much bullshit is just removed from life, it’s amazing.
We are going strong and we love each other. We might not always like each other, but the love has grown every day, so has our faith in the relationship. Both have changed massively and we are sort of a culmination of the two personalities we both used to be while maintaining our original spark.
13 years and counting. A lot of tumult in the middle, but at least for me I always knew he was my Picasso.
It ended
We were together for 5 years, but it was miserable. No shared interests was boring. We never spent time together, because what would we do? He wouldn’t watch TV or movies with me, which felt like it should be bare minimum. But our tastes didn’t match so he refused to watch anything with me. We sometimes went out to eat. Sometimes we talked.
I couldn’t go to concerts because he didn’t like my music but wouldn’t let me go alone.
I’m with someone now that is much more like me with several shared interests and am way happier.
Its been pretty great. he is Greg to my Dharma and I feel I have softened him up.
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We ended up getting married, and it’s going great, we both want something the other possesses. He wants to be more like me, and I want to be more like him. We’re responsible for different things in our marriage, and that delegation of duties works really well.
It can be challenging at times, as some decisions or points of view aren’t always aligned, but thanks to that, we don’t live in a relationship echo chamber. And since we share the same core values, we agree on the things that truly matter.