I’m in my late 20s and most of my old friendships have faded. I have acquaintances, but not many people I can text randomly or just hang out with. I try to put myself out there, but it just never clicks. Is it always this hard as an adult?
How do adults make real friendships without it feeling awkward or forced?
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Yes it can be hard to make friends as an adult.
Why not try joining a club based on a sport or hobby that you have? Or attend meetups in your area. There are many, many adults in the exact same situation as you are.
The good news is that just because you feel awkward doesn’t mean the other person thinks you’re being awkward. Get out of your head about it and just interact with people genuinely and with an open heart. That’s all anyone can do.
Find a social hobby to join.
It can be hard. But I’d recommend finding meet ups or other groups online. Hiking? Painting? Creative writing? Climbing? Running? There’s loads out there. Try something new. Don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t work first time. And also you need to be going regularly to start making a connection with people. I know it’s scary. I was so anxious when I went to one for the first few times. But it did wonders for my self confidence and mental health.
It’s a cliche but you have to put yourself out there, seize the initiative and make sure you’re making the effort to start conversations and make friends