TL;DR: boyfriend’s acting distant, making me feel like he could be cheating. i want talk to him about my feelings but i’m worried it might go sideways.
i’m unsure as to whether i am overreacting. i would say i’m a trusting person which means that i have been made to look a fool before, but i thought i’d come here for some other perspectives.
we have been together for 9 ish months and it has definitely been a rollercoaster of emotions. we’ve had full blown arguments that have lasted days before, but never have i suspected him speaking to other until recently.
he has randomly grown distant and i’m not sure why. we haven’t argued in a long time, and i feel as though i haven’t done anything to hurt him. however, when we are apart i don’t hear from him as much at all but i can see him active/online. it makes me feel chronically online mentioning that, but i figure it makes him look suspicious when i’m on delivered for 18 hours and i can see him active 30 seconds ago.
he still flirts with me when he is responding, but i find myself not matching the energy because i’m getting it in my head that he could be speaking to somebody else and the thought of that makes me want to throw up. it’s also becoming more difficult to make plans; i’ll be met with an “i’ll let you know” or an “i’ll see”, which just hurts.
i want to just ask him straight up, but i don’t know how to go about this without seeming like i’m trying to start an argument. i also don’t just want to jump ship because i do like him a lot and i could just be overthinking this entire situation.
i am just really unsure- how do i ask him? are these obvious telltale signs that i am just being blind to?
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“Distant” means different things to different people. If you don’t have any actual, substantial reason to believe he’s cheating, I’d just chalk it up to uncertainty.
You said he’s matching your energy, he still flirts, etc. not every day can be a romantic getaway.