My boyfriend and I have been together for six years. Lately it feels like we’re both just struggling to love and feel loved. It feels like we fight for a week and then put more effort into our relationship and then stop again. We are both college students and don’t have a lot of money so I understand why we don’t get each other gifts a lot. He also works everyday and spends time with family on the weekends so we don’t have a lot of time to go on dates. I find myself getting upset because I feel like I tell him things I want that make me feel loved but he doesn’t ever do them. I’d much rather have a hand written note than a purchased snack. I was just wondering if this is a normal stage in relationships or if we are clinging to something that has fizzled out. I also was wondering what small things I can do to make him feel loved. I often cook dinners for him after work and I have the idea to start writing him letters. What other ideas do people have for ways of showing love? He emphasizes quality time as his main love language but it’s hard when he is so busy.
TL;DR: my bf and I have been together for 6 years and due to time and money constraints I’ve been struggling to show him how much I love him lately, need suggestions
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It sounds like the relationship has just run it’s course. Most people do not end up forever with the person they started dating in the 8th grade for this very reason. You’ve grown up and changed and your relationship is just stagnant.
Now is a great time to be single and figure out who you are as your own person and not just 1/2 of a couple.