Hi guys, long time listener and been super anxious about the upcoming issue.
It’s pretty much what I say it is, I’m going to be a bridesmaid in my partners cousins wedding, but neither of us has ever met them.
My partner is Filipino and apparently having family in the wedding party is crucial, his cousins side of the family immigrated to Canada from the Phillipines whilst his side immigrated to Malaysia and he moved to Australia where he met me. So yeah no real chance to meet his extended family as super far away and money troubles on both sides.
The wedding is this August in the Phillipines and he is the best man and I’m a bridesmaid. It’s also an 8hour drive from their home town, they are super rural and idk how I feel about being stuck in a car for 8hrs with people I’ve never met!! Also I get super car sick so the whole thing makes me super nervous.
I also have no idea what I’m wearing etc, apparently I’ll be given the dress the day before. We are having virtual tailoring done this weekend?
I tried backing out because I didn’t feel comfortable (happy to go to the wedding etc just don’t want to be in the bridal party), but my partners mum freaked. Apparently I’m the first white person to ever go to their small town/village and having me in the wedding is a massive status thing? Idk his parents are very pushy about him marrying a white Aussie girl and freak out every-time they see me. The first time I met his mum she would only post selfies with me and not anybody else in the family, and would constantly live stream videos of me to her filo friends and family. But literally just of me, also she would never talk to me, just start recording out of no where as I sat down for a meal etc.
All in all I do not know what to do, I’m super nervous about it all but want to be respectful of their culture so I don’t really feel like I can say no. How do I mentally prepare for this?
Plz help
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Backup of the post’s body: Hi guys, long time listener and been super anxious about the upcoming issue.
It’s pretty much what I say it is, I’m going to be a bridesmaid in my partners cousins wedding, but neither of us has ever met them.
My partner is Filipino and apparently having family in the wedding party is crucial, his cousins side of the family immigrated to Canada from the Phillipines whilst his side immigrated to Malaysia and he moved to Australia where he met me. So yeah no real chance to meet his extended family as super far away and money troubles on both sides.
The wedding is this August in the Phillipines and he is the best man and I’m a bridesmaid. It’s also an 8hour drive from their home town, they are super rural and idk how I feel about being stuck in a car for 8hrs with people I’ve never met!! Also I get super car sick so the whole thing makes me super nervous.
I also have no idea what I’m wearing etc, apparently I’ll be given the dress the day before. We are having virtual tailoring done this weekend?
I tried backing out because I didn’t feel comfortable (happy to go to the wedding etc just don’t want to be in the bridal party), but my partners mum freaked. Apparently I’m the first white person to ever go to their small town/village and having me in the wedding is a massive status thing? Idk his parents are very pushy about him marrying a white Aussie girl and freak out every-time they see me. The first time I met his mum she would only post selfies with me and not anybody else in the family, and would constantly live stream videos of me to her filo friends and family. But literally just of me, also she would never talk to me, just start recording out of no where as I sat down for a meal etc.
All in all I do not know what to do, I’m super nervous about it all but want to be respectful of their culture so I don’t really feel like I can say no. How do I mentally prepare for this?
Plz help
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Yes it’s awkward but it could be fun to experience their culture authentically. Just go and have fun with it all.
Worst case, it’s a Get Out situation but in honestly you’ll probably just have fun!
So his entire family is basically treating you like some weird novelty rather than a human being? Um, ew.
Filipinos are a bit weird.
Worked with them. There were 3 from the same family at one stage. Met their spouses and teen and adult kids. All the females but one were high maintenance and needy.
Had a boyfriend who’s mum was from the Philippines and she was a bit weird.
They like to show off, the women seem to like people do do things for them, they seem too needy.
I’d tell the mum off for filming you and then showing it to people who are strangers to you.
Go on the trip but plan to be bored shitless.
Tell partner you’ll do family stuff for a few days and then you want to be somewhere better like a city or resort.