My bf and I have been together for a little over a year now. We don’t live together officially yet, but we’ve been talking about it. For about 7 months now, he’s been staying at my place every night. He still has his own place, and he really only goes over to host things with his roommates. He also still pays utilities and whatnot for that house.
However, I’ve noticed a huge spike in utilities since he’s stayed with it. At first, I didn’t mind, but I noticed so far it’s been about $50-100 more a month. There’s also more, because I keep everything stocked at home – paper towels, tissues, toilet paper, detergent, dishwasher soap, body wash, toothpaste, etc. I notice those run out twice as fast as well.
The only thing he contributes in is groceries, which we switch off every other week, which even with that he eats twice or more than me so my grocery bills have skyrocketed.
I feel bad for asking for help, because he doesn’t have a job. He’s applying to medical schools right now and his parents currently support him with everything. He literally has no income and it feels weird to ask for help by basically asking him to give me his parents money. What do you guys think? Am I being too greedy?
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what? OFC ask him to give you his parents’ money for your skyrocketing bills.
It would not be greedy to ask for help since the time he has been at your place it has risen up and it’s not like ur asking for hundred of dollars, also for me i see it as u guys are in a relationship you guys are a team don’t feel guilty or greedy from asking for help from your partner y’all are a team. As you said he doesn’t gave a job but he is 24 and I’m guessing he has a car and a driver license tell him to start door dashing or uber to make like 50-100 every month to give u while he looks for a job
Point out exactly what you did here. Explain you didn’t budget for this. If he isn’t cool, take that for the flag you need.
In my experience, guys are a bit clueless about how much they cost.