Hi all, this is a throwaway account because I don’t want my husband to find it. My husband (24m) and I (24f) have been together for 4 years and married for 2 and have one kid. I love him a lot and would never cheat. He travels a lot for work and I tend to be alone with our baby most of the time. I can’t seem to stop my kind from wandering to other people when he’s gone. My husband has no interest in polyamory and I’d never cheat. I’m just frustrated because I can’t seem to get the thoughts to stop. How do I manage being long distance?
TL;DR: I can’t stop thinking about cheating when my husband is gone but I never would. How do I make the thoughts stop and be peaceful despite long distance?
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Maybe read some romantasy to satisfy that craving for romance. Listen to audiobooks and enjoy the thrill of someone getting swept off their feet.
Spend time putting that energy towards flirting with your spouse long distance. Confess you’re having a hard time with the distance and are wanting to spice things up. Since he comes home you can talk about what you want to do when he gets back. Take pics for him. See if he’s game to have some fun with this. Grass is greenest where it’s watered.
And spend more time with friends to keep yourself occupied and satisfied socially, rather than the isolation that can happen for young moms. Some of it is needing to connect with someone.
hmm this is a tough one. first of all-regardless of what anyone says-don’t feel guilty. clearly your heart is in the right place in seeking out a way to stop and that’s what matters most. long distance is really difficult and comes with many ups and downs in terms of emotional closeness. the only advice I can really give is that you make the choice to stop. as easy as it is to fantasize, you do have a bit of control on which thoughts you engage with and which thoughts you let slide past, and though it may not feel easy right now to not engage with them, just practice not interacting with the thoughts of temptation. also keep trying to stay busy and maybe try a new hobby or something to keep your mind occupied and focused on you.