I’ve only been dating her for about 1 and a half months.
But we’ve seen each other a lot. And 90% of the time it’s initiated by her. Asking me to come over since she lives without parents and it’s easy.
But I like my own space, I don’t like to see someone all the time even in a relationship.
She’ll say at like 4pm after work for me to come over have dinner- but I just don’t want too.
This isn’t personal though, I would be like this with everyone. Usually l’ve never been in a position to want to slow down since it’s never really been so quick. But even things like mid week cinema trips, I don’t want to do it.
But despite this, I fancy the socks of her and am obsessed with her. I’ll happily spend 2 hours on FaceTime to her while playing on my PlayStation or watching TV. But like my space and also take things slow.
She’s already hinted at being exclusive which I don’t want any time soon either.
I want to tell her we’re going too fast, but afraid it will push her away full stop as she does tend to over think.
I’m going on holiday for 2 weeks which will be a nice break, im planning on having this conversation when I return.
Over the 2 weeks I won’t be texting her near as much as we do (all day everyday, which I don’t like either)
TLDR ; seeing someone, who’s very keen in progressing together, but it’s only been 1 and a half months and I don’t want to take it so far- scared it will push her away
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shes excited to have you around. talk to her and ask for some compromise, but communicate so she knows you are not pulling back. even flat out tell her you are not.
Good u need that holiday and real talk ( you need to learn to say “NO” to her if u don’t learn to do that she will control you and u will lose her ) and don’t be afraid of losing her, you need to understand she wants u to be able to say “NO” all guys say yes to her anyways and if your that one that does this even if u do lose her she will always remember u as that guy that stood up to her
You have to be completely honest with her, especially about the topic of exclusivity, and you have to respect the fact that she may not want to continue with you once she finds out you aren’t on the same page. You can’t have everything in life. You need to treat others with kindness and honesty and let the chips fall where they may.