I’m a 37 year old female and I’ve been a quadriplegic since I was 14 due to swimming pool diving accident.
I’m paralyzed from the shoulders down and I’m dependent on care from others. I do work remotely and live in guest house behind my parents’ home where family members and care attendants help me in shifts.
I have a good group of friends and active social life. I still long for wanting to be married and have a spouse. I know it’s unlikely to happen.
How does anyone deal with never having a true love/love of their life?
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I know of a wheelchair bound woman, the older sister of one of my former classmates, and she got married to one of her caretakers a few years back.
So my advice is: dont give up, you can find a mate as well
You are worthy of love, just as you are. Life hasn’t been fair, but that doesn’t mean true love is out of reach. It may not come how or when you expected, but don’t give up on the possibility you still have so much to give and receive.
Sorry to hear what you’re going through. My cousin is in the same boat and just out of curiosity what do you use to type with: mouth stick, a head pointer, voice recognition software, etc?
When you were 14 did you expect an accident that would set your life on this path?
If not I would keep the hope alive no one really knows what the future holds, there’s been many times people have thought “This is my life now” and something throws a spanner in those plans.
I might be over optimistic but that’s how I look at life, bad and good come your way you need to react every time and it can change your life if even for a short time.
I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone, someone that matches your energy and love the way you need. Keep putting that energy out there and someone will lock onto it. You’ll find them and they will find you.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I too am wheelchair bound, have found the love of my life. I have PPMS, granted she married me before the diagnosis. However 15 years still together. It can happen. Have faith!
Are there dating sites for the disabled?
I heard they say there’s somebody out there for everybody. Don’t give up hope. You said you have a good social group. Well keep that up. You never know who you’ll meet. What are your interests? Maybe join some groups. Such as a reading club or do some writing or painting classes, etc
I’d cope with knowing that many people who aren’t disabled don’t find a partner as well. Not everyone dates or marries, but still find meaning in life, although go through plenty of loneliness. All you can do is accept that you’re unpartnered in the present and make the most of the time given on this earth. Wishing you the best.
It’s not impossible to find love. It may come when you least suspect it.
There are people that actually fall in love with the person and look past any disabilities. My sister was lucky enough to find one of those people.
See Joni Eareckson Tada. She overcame.
I would not give up hope! A YouTube channel I enjoy watching is Squirmy and Grubs. They are an interabled married couple. Shane has SMA and basically can’t move his whole body. I’ve found their story to be very enlightening and great to spread awareness about misconceptions surrounding interabled dating or dating as a disabled person. Perhaps you might find their story helpful? Everyone deserves love and not all relationships look the same 💕
I can’t imagine the struggle, but let your soul shine through and the right person will see your light. I heard today that the most successful people in anything possess one common trait and that attribute is grit. Grit is defined as passion and perseverance.
Don’t let your disability affect your social life, anything can happen and everyone is deserving of love 💕.
I just have one question… If you r quadplegic, how did you write this post, or did someone else do it?
Many are in your position with 4 functioning limbs. What you have fomo of isn’t worth it in most cases & with your limitations, even more so. It sounds like you have a great life with a strong family & friend network which is definitely better than a spouse.