Newly accepting my attraction to women being more than just appreciative 😅😂💖 So I feel like I completely missed the memo on how to actually flirt with women. Like, I know the basics—be respectful, don’t be weird, confidence is attractive, etc.—but when I’m actually in the moment, my brain just freezes. Either I say nothing and come off uninterested, or I overthink and end up sounding awkward af.
How do y’all do it?? How do you start a convo in a way that’s actually flirty without feeling forced? And how do you tell when she’s flirting back vs just being nice?? I feel like I’m missing something obvious lol. Any tips would be appreciated.
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i’m going through the same thing, as i thought i was straight for my whole life (i am 30) how old are you?
honestly… just don’t think about flirting. This is just my opinion, but flirting only works sometimes. It can scare people away, even if you’re good at it. Being friendly is a lot easier and safer. Pretend you’re not trying to flirt at all- it’s more comfortable for both of you. And if she seems interested, at the end you can ask for her number or something.
Pretend that women are people! (sarcastic humor for those who dont know it when they see it)
Ok so check this out, watch kevin samuels, a men empowerment channel on youtube. I even love his advice as a woman.
the key is being an attractive enough male, that woman will come to you. You dont have to do any of the work, once your a desirable male. Maybe thats why nothing comes to mind because your already in this natural alpha state where you know, you dont really have to do much of the work. When the right woman comes along, dont worry, the right thoughts will come to mind, and she will give you something to work with.
Intentionally embarrassing yourself.
Maybe Bad pickup lines make us laugh which is basically the key to our heart
Hey, if you get an answer, tell me too. Lesbian Sheep Effect gets me good.
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You cant really force yourself to flirt, it just happens naturally when you meet someone you vibe with, you have banter and you know, it flows easily.
Just talk to them like normal people
Get the president to lower the price of eggs and finish the wall, when that’s done come back to Greenland- it’ll be 2055….
just try giving her a genuine complement without making it sexual or weird
Confidence, keep a bit of distance so to not be threatening, show interest in their interests. Let them do most of the talking.Â
Ask them questions about their life and show interest in them. Make eye contact. Don’t talk about divisive issues or politics. Use good manors. Proper hygiene and take pride in your physical appearance. They have to be attracted to you. Dress well. Go to the gym 5 days a week and take pride in yourself. Be a leader. There are a million tips.
It’s called having a conversation with them.
Your fear of rejection and your ability to flirt are inversely proportional
if you have a lot of guy friends, talk to girls the way you talk to them, minus the sexual harassment
Lmk when you find out. Women are harder than a Rubiks cube to figure out
I honestly just let it happen naturally. I.e. if the conversation opens up, it just occurs. Though with women I find that this can also lead to a route where they think I’m not attracted because I didn’t come out and directly say it. But that’s not how I’ve ever been, I’ve gained attraction through conversation and thought. I can think you’re conventionally, physically attractive, but I won’t find you truly attractive until I get to know you a little. But this does lead to a dangerous game where I’m not even an option. Though I’ve tested it out the other way where I’ve approached girls and said, I noticed you across the way and I thought you are attractive more or less, and that does get me attention, but sometimes I don’t feel it because I didn’t do what was true to me. So it’s a weird balancing act with girls I come to find. I’m not super attractive as a guy, early 30s, 5’7 so not super short, not tall, chunky but muscular, thinning hair, but I’ve realized that for me as a guy my flirting was my interesting them with my experiences, my advice, my ambitions. And that has worked for me way more times than not. But you might have a different foray. Honestly, if I were a girl, I would do the more straightforward approach. Maybe make it a little more apparent that you’re interested. More girls tend to roll both ways or at least experiment both ways, but I guess it depends ultimately what you want.
Flirting is suggesting the improbable, that can be amusing, but not creepy. You need to respect their right to laugh it off. That’s the balance. Have fun.
Train. Just like you would in the gym. And don’t expect overnight results. You have to put in the time. How? Talk to as many women as possible every day WITHOUT the goal of romantic or sexual interaction. This is vital, absolutely vital. It removes the stress of trying to be successful whilst givihg you the space to teach yourself how to just talk to women. Talk to all women. Older women, elderly women, young women, children you meet in appropriate settings. She may be eight or eighty but she is still a female and you can learn a lot ny talking to her, and crucially by LISTENING TO HER. Don’t start rabbitting on about your motorbike/car football team, or other stupid bloke stuff bloke. She will have no interest in this whatsoever. But women love male attention and they love being listened to. After a couple of months of this when you have become relaxed and skilled at this now you can start to chat up women. Best of luck.
Relax, be funny and wait till she makes the first move