22f I feel like I have the looks, the personality but something always goes wrong. I want a traditional man where I’m willing to put in the same traditional values too but I always end up in a situation where I get hurt because I put too much effort in and go in too quickly. I just want to love and have someone worship the ground I walk on without being called names or being spoken to like shit. Is this even possible these days?
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Confidence does a hell of a lot.
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Love is not worship. That’s infatuation. Maybe there’s your problem. Is there anything specific that comes up during breakups?
You are probably going after the wrong guys. It’s not normal for a guy to call his gf names and speak to them like shit. If that is normal for you, it means you are selecting from the limited pool of guys who do that.
Traditional men look for traditional women. Are you traditional yourself?
And try to see if you notice a pattern in the type of guys you go for.
The traditional ones I know go for girls back home. Myself including eventually when I feel ready.
To be brutally honest, that whole paragraph is just a list of red flags. You want unhealthy things.
Listen, as someone who’s old enough to be your dad, just calm down. You don’t want to hear this but you’re just acting like a child with your expectations. In 10 to 20 years, you’ll calm down a bit and understand just how unreasonable and stupid you’re acting right now. Unless you’re like those people who never grow up.
You are 22, really just a kid. These things you think you want now might change a lot in the 5-10 years. Don’t be in a rush, I was 32 when I met my wife. I had plenty of doubts along the way but looking back anyone who would have loved (put up with) me at 22 isn’t someone who I would to be with today.