I’m a 27m and I’m 4,10 I’ve tried to look the best i can. I got a better style, I’ve always worked out a lot and I’m proud of my body, I have a nice face I believe so. I don’t disrespect anyone or go out of my way to be rude and I’m sure my personality isn’t the problem. My hygiene is good i take care of myself and always make sure i smell nice yet I’ve never had a gf. In high-school i would get bullied a lot but I’ve move past it and let myself have the opportunity to grow. I just don’t know how else I can improve. I’ve been in the dating game for years now and I would get dates here and there but they never lead to anything serious, I’ve used dating apps but there’ll be months where i don’t even get a single match (yes I know why) and I’ve tried cold approaches but ever since last year I’ve stopped. I asked out a girl because i thought she was attractive but she just laughed and said “your way to short to be doing this” and ever since then i genuinely just can’t find the strength or courage to cold approach anymore. I’m fully aware I’m nowhere near ideal of what any women want’s in a guy but I’m hoping if i can max out all my attributes she can hopefully look past my height. I also know women don’t like desperate men and i promise I’m not that, i would just like to have a relationship with someone who genuinely cares. I don’t know what else i could be improving on? I don’t want to give up but i don’t know if i can take more rejection, maybe I’m just not meant to have a relationship.
How do I become more attractive?
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You sound like a solid guy tbh, you’ve just got to ask the right kind of women out any woman that values your height above anything (even if you were 6’4) isn’t the right kind of women. Did you ask that girl out simply because you thought she was attractive or? Because it’s just not worth doing tbh. I respect the effort but at the end of the day as stated before if that’s your sole reason for asking someone out it just won’t work out long-term.
Do what you love to do, find a hobby you like to do, and find people who like doing it it’s the simplest way to not only make friends but meet women you’re far more likely to find someone that way. Women LOVE passionate men and if you’re passionate about what you love to do and if that happens to be what they love to do then you’re set.
You already take care of yourself physically, so becoming more attractive now is about presence. Stand tall, keep strong eye contact, and carry yourself with confidence. Most importantly, build a life that excites you. Women are drawn to men who radiate purpose and fulfillment. Sharpen your social skills: be playful, make women laugh, and focus on how you make them feel. And own your height instead of seeing it as a flaw. Shen you stop treating it like a limitation, others will too.
> I’ve always worked out a lot
Good. Now do sports where women are. For example group lessons in the gym.
Question: How do I become more attractive?
Answer: Just become wealthy 😀
You did the right thing being honest. He stayed even after hearing your past, that means he cares. You don’t need to share every single thought, just let him know when it feels really heavy.
It’s good to balance. You can say something simple like “having a rough day” instead of explaining all. That way he can choose how to support you without feeling all the weight. therapy or support groups can hold the bigger stuff. Your partner can still be a safe place, just not the only lifeline that makes the love stronger.
Man, respect that u put in real effort to change urself, lot guys never do that. U fixed style, hygiene, body, personality that already big step.
Height yeah it tough, some ppl reject fast, but not all care only for that. What matter is ur vibe, confidence, how u make someone feel. Keep pushin, u only need 1 who see u, not 100.
I don’t need to finish reading this to know. If your doing this well for yourself then the problem isn’t you it’s the environments your trying to date in
You sound like you are a great guy who is motivated and you have a lot going for you! I think you’re doing all the right things.
Best way forward from now is to put yourself in positions where you’re likely to meet and get to know someone, such as by going to places which interest you such as exercise classes/ taking walks/ whatever else interests you and then approaching people. Keep going on the apps, but many people will not give others a chance on there. It might be best for you to meet someone who can actually get to know you rather than just reading the height on a page. You are more than that and you need to meet someone who gets to know you and realises that.
It is never nice to be rejected but from what I can tell,men who put themselves out there do get rejected a lot and just have to sort of power on through.
forget dating apps
talk to girls irl
thats it
Don’t focus on getting a woman. Women like men who prioritise their career and independence most in my experience. Learn how to live life single and then they will flock
Wear a disguise
Confidence isn’t about thinking you’re the tallest guy in the room. It’s about being the only one who’s completely comfortable not being. That self-assurance is magnetic.
I am a short king myself and I had hella trouble dating in my late 20s and all through my 30s. My lady told me that it’s all about confidence. If you confident, a woman to see that a mile away and that’s what is attractive.
Just make sure you don’t mistaken it for arrogance.