my (24f) sister (10) seems to be keeping her personality to her friends, as we all did becoming a preteen. I remember being that young and never feeling understood by the adults. Considering her home life is much different than mine at her age w parental differences and the state of the internet, I know I have to approach this gently with her.
We’ve always been close, and shes really awesome when it’s just me and her. We have inside jokes & fun banter but the biggest thing is that she listens. When I’m with her and her parents (my dad + her mom) she doesn’t listen. when I step in to treat her the way I do when we are alone, our ‘parents’ stop me and say “that’s not your job” and continue to allow her to, for lack of a better term, beg and act inconsiderate in public.
When it’s just me and her, she knows exactly how to act before I even bring it up. So I know she has it in her.
Idk I guess what I am looking for are questions to get her talking. I don’t want to approach her as a big authority figure, I always wanna be her sister she can come to. I wanna get her talking about how she uses the internet, what her friends are talking about, and how things really are at home (our other sister19f lives w them so I have a good idea). I never liked knowing everyone got my secrets from each other when i was a kid, so I would love to find a way to talk to her again like we did a year ago instead of asking my (19) sister for information intended confidentially. She (10) started a new school in a new neighbourhood last year and it’s been weird since. Any advice is helpful
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Backup of the post’s body: my (24f) sister (10) seems to be keeping her personality to her friends, as we all did becoming a preteen. I remember being that young and never feeling understood by the adults. Considering her home life is much different than mine at her age w parental differences and the state of the internet, I know I have to approach this gently with her.
We’ve always been close, and shes really awesome when it’s just me and her. We have inside jokes & fun banter but the biggest thing is that she listens. When I’m with her and her parents (my dad + her mom) she doesn’t listen. when I step in to treat her the way I do when we are alone, our ‘parents’ stop me and say “that’s not your job” and continue to allow her to, for lack of a better term, beg and act inconsiderate in public.
When it’s just me and her, she knows exactly how to act before I even bring it up. So I know she has it in her.
Idk I guess what I am looking for are questions to get her talking. I don’t want to approach her as a big authority figure, I always wanna be her sister she can come to. I wanna get her talking about how she uses the internet, what her friends are talking about, and how things really are at home (our other sister19f lives w them so I have a good idea). I never liked knowing everyone got my secrets from each other when i was a kid, so I would love to find a way to talk to her again like we did a year ago instead of asking my (19) sister for information intended confidentially. She (10) started a new school in a new neighbourhood last year and it’s been weird since. Any advice is helpful
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