I (18F) was recently diagnosed with an STI. I forgot the name of it, but it’s pretty serious. If left untreated, it evolves into HIV, and in turn, AIDS. I’m currently on medication for it, and got orders from my doctor to get my partner, 19M, tested.
This man has a habit of dragging his feet for medical stuff. Vomiting every day for a past month, belching constantly, and losing weight rapidly. He just now went to see a doctor. He seems to be fine, besides a low blood cell count. Not my issue with that. However, my issue is that he’s dragging his feet to get tested. My healing is already painful enough. I don’t need him doing this shit.
He said he’ll do it once he talks to his general provider, but he needs to get tested ASAP. I’m on 4 different meds for this, and he sucks at taking meds too. When he got sick a month ago as well, he only took 4 steroids and stopped because “he felt better”. Like…that’s the point. It felt like I had to force them down his throat with how much he refused to do it.
How do I tell him it’s serious, and he needs to stop being a fucking child and make his damn appointment?
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There’s nothing that “evolves” into HIV that I know of. It’s worth knowing what it is when you post online so you can get better advice because it matters.
The way you do it is you say, “Hey [boyfriend] I know you’re scared about getting tested but it’s not optional. Now is the time. Call your doctor on the phone RIGHT NOW and schedule an appointment to get your labs done for [mysterious infection]. Nothing is more important than doing this so I’ll just stand here until the phone call is over and you tell me the time and date of the appointment.” Then write down the date and time and be at his house to drive him there. Then consider if you want a boyfriend who can’t run his own life.
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HIV turns into AIDS. HIV is its own virus; things don’t turn into it (things can make you more susceptible, but the virus must be introduced).
Your bf is a liar.
I think you’re confused. There isn’t one STI that turns into HIV. Do you have HIV and take medication for it so that the infection stays under control?
You could try asking your doctor for a note to give to him.
Hmm there is no STI that evolves into HIV… so have you been diagnosed with HIV? If so he needs to get tested, at the doctor they probably tested his blood for HIV during the blood test. But not for sure. A low blood cell count can be indicative.
No IST becomes HIV. HIV is a virus that is contracted from contaminated blood. But there is no ist that will become HIV. What can happen is that you have an STD and become more susceptible to contracting HIV, but this would require you to be in direct contact with someone who has HIV.