I can’t accept that I no longer want a relationship. How do I convince myself? It feels like I’m torn between two parts: one that wants to find love and the other that no longer wants to look for or achieve it. How do I accept that I no longer want a relationship?
How do I convince myself I don’t want a relationship?
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I can’t accept that I no longer want a relationship. How do I convince myself? It feels like I’m torn between two parts: one that wants to find love and the other that no longer wants to look for or achieve it. How do I accept that I no longer want a relationship?
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Talk to some divorce lawyers about what guys go through. That’ll kill your motivation for a relationship real quick.
You clearly do still want a relationship or at least part of you does.
Stop trying to convince yourself of this and instead work on figuring out what parts of you want the relationship and why. Unless you make peace with those parts of yourself, you will not be happy.
You don’t. You don’t have to convince yourself of anything at all, just live with your life as it is
Sounds like maybe you do want a relationship? That’s just not the same as being in a good place to actually look for a partner right now.
I bet as soon as you stop looking for a relationship, one will turn up.
I think the apps have made people think they’re like ordering a pizza or something, Tinder = Deliveroo for romantic partner. It’s just not true.
it’s difficult, even for me still. though.. my advice is to think of benefits it has to be single, along with looking at downsides of being in a relationship. that way you’re pulling more positivity towards not wanting a relationship.
another thing that could help is just socialize with other people you know, become closer with friends of the same gender which you have a lot in common with
the feeling of wanting a partner will never fully leave, even if you know it’s not the time for you yet, but these are tips that helped for me