Some people dont value me cuz of how much attention or importance I give to them in my life.
Like I am always available for these jerks. If they want anything from me i take the time out of my day to help them. But they act very toxic, including the time when we are together. They talk as if I am not present there, I end up being the joke of the group. Trust me not in a friendly way
I in general talk a little more than normal, so that further degrades me. So ur advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance
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Easy….just stop engaging with them. They will eventually give up when they realize they can’t get anything from you anymore.
Stop, say no, don’t let them turn it on you.
Be firm, don’t get angry.
Quit thinking of them as friends. Friends do not make you the joke of the group or treat you as though they don’t value you. You sound young – as you get older you learn you don’t need a bunch of “friends” it’s better to have one or two friends, or even to be alone than to be with jerks who mistreat you. This is on you though… no one is forcing you to be with them. It’s hard to break up but just don’t reach out to them. If they contact you tell them you are busy. If anyone cares enough to ask you what’s up, be honest. Maybe that’s actually someone who could be a good friend.
Just leave. It’s not about teaching them a lesson, it’s not about making them undrstand, its about you surrounding yourself with better people.
I also have this issue. Sometimes other friends can help corroborate toxic friends true toxicity
Moving on is simple if you can break it down. Bury your FOMO when they invite you out (if you have any). Just say your busy, or have plans already, working late or the truth about how they treat you. That will all depend on your personality.
Find something you want to do that is social so you can meet people. Dance classes are fun, hiking is also an easy way to meet people when you do it in a group.
I’ve used meetup.com. You can try out different things. Even if you don’t like what you’re doing there are people to do it with and that’s interesting.
Last bit of advice. Read How To Win Friends and Influence People. It will give you some incite in how to converse and have people like you. It is not a long book and it’s an easy read.