I just genuinely don’t enjoy drinking or partying. It makes me feel uncomfortable and the people that go to these parties make me feel uncomfortable. It’s not like I haven’t been to any parties, because I have. I just don’t enjoy it. Idk if maybe I’m missing out on something but I feel like these people are just chasing something shallow and a thrill that fades quickly. Maybe I’m just more mentally mature than them but am I wierd for this? I also feel hopeless because I got broken up with and now my boyfriend is all about that party life, and it makes me lose hope that there’s any good guys out there that don’t party or drink or hookup with randoms for fun 🙁
How do I deal with not liking parties or drinking when that’s what’s considered “cool” at my age and that’s what everyone does.
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You’re not weird at all just self-aware, and that’s a strength. Plenty of people feel the same but go along with it anyway. You’re not missing out, you’re just on a different path, and the right people will value that.
Everyone is different. Some people like me grew out of it by the time I reached my late 20’s. If you’re not into it, don’t waste your time. Your minutes are precious. Might as well spend them chilling how you want.
I was this way, now I have way more money than all the party people. To each their own, I think free stuff outside is way more fun like fishing and basketball. Or a not free option; having a cool car. I like something to show for my money and time.
Keep it up 5 years from now all of others your age will be looking up to you!!
This is literally how I feel and I am genuinely losing hope that there exist females in our generation that don’t like you said hook up for fun or crave attention so message like a 100 guys. Most of my friends don’t engage in the party culture so know there are other guys out there but they tend to not be the best looking or jus hella introverted.
You’ll be better off for not doing that stuff. Try to find like minded people involved in hobbies you enjoy and you’ll make better friends.
You just go do things that are actually fun. You can have fun at parties dead sober as long as there is something fun happening – bon-fire, karaoke, dancing. Otherwise, just go find a real hobby. Drinking culture sucks. There is nothing wrong with you – you’ve figured out a secret that a lot of people never get to.
Go find a new group of friends that share more common interests with you.
Also, being “cool” only has the value you give it. You can get fulfillment and personal value out of anything you want. People don’t think about you enough to care what you do or don’t like to do, and most people respect people who move to the beat of their own drum.
When you get a little older, you realize how silly it is to put so much effort into what other people think of you – which isn’t really in your control anyway.
Hopeless? You’re crazy. Gen Z doesn’t party nearly enough. I was just talking with some bar owners about how bad for business Gen Z is compared to prior generations. You will have a far easier time finding people not into partying compared to previous generations.
You don’t have to ‘deal’ with it. You are who you are and you like what you like. When you start approaching your 30s you’ll realise nobody cares who’s cool anymore.
Some people re-charge by having alone time, quiet time or being in calm environments. (Introvert)
Some re-charge by being surrounded by people and those party/pub of environments. (Extrovert)
I don’t think either is right or wrong. The only wrong thing would be living any second of your life trying to be what you’re not.
I’m a people loving, drinking party goer on occasions. I would hate to know someone was having a bad time out with me, if I knew they’d rather be doing something different that brings them the joy partying/dancing brings me.
You accept the fact that the psychological landscape of each individual is extremely different. This means, all your fellow young people are trying to pretend they are all apes, but you are ok with admitting to being a parrot. Trust me. Live your life in alignment with your own nature, do not bend it yourself fit in. That path leads only towards a life of shadow and waste
A lot of people are like this. Just find them lol. But yeah the ones doing the louder things will be more visible
It’s not weird, find things you enjoy and do them…being cool is subjective.
I wish I didn’t cave in to drinking at a young age. 15 years of drinking and developing alcohol addiction is something I don’t wish upon anyone. Avoid it. You’ll appreciate it later in life.