I recently got into one of the best relationships of my life with someone that finally treats me very well for the first time. However, this new safe space has made me center my life around him entirely. Both of us are starting new academic chapters soon and will be long distance for a year minimum, and we had a conversation about how we shouldn’t center these journeys solely around each other. We should have our own motivations, friends in these new places and our own goals. I agree with this in theory, of course but in practice I do find myself centering everything around him. I recognize that this is unhealthy but realistically i do not know how to stop doing it. He has his own goals and friends and so should I, what is some practical advice to stop this pattern I’ve fallen into?
TL;DR – I need to decenter my bf in my life and need practical actionable advice to do so