I (17 F) have been dealing with multiple forms of abuse since I was a child. Mostly physical and emotional, but some financial as well. A large portion of my childhood was dealing with their addictions as well.
I am finally able to go off to college and leave them behind, but my overall costs are really extreme and my father gets a GI bill as he was in the military and has transferred it to me. I need that money to go to college.
My parents are moving 3 states away in June, roughly a week after I graduate high school, and I was supposed to stay with a family member who lives 20 minutes away. I don’t turn 18 until July 25th. They are now demanding I move 3 hours from home with other family members (who are extremely abusive, I genuinely believe sexually to my younger brother, and enablers of my parents) and leave behind my friends, partner, and job(s) because they think I’ll be irresponsible here.
They’re leaving ME and saying I need to keep my in state tuition by staying here. But when I say I don’t want to live with the enablers, they say they’re going to cut me off financially and effectively disown me.
I’m scared and panicking and I am genuinely considering suicide to just end the fucking abuse for once.
Please help me. I don’t know what to do.
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Call emergency or find a ride to the hospital and tell the hospital everything. Expecially because of whatever you said about the abuse. And tell them about how you are being threatened by your parents. ( by the way, I don’t think your parents are allowed to disown you. ) [ I still think you need a better place to live and they will find something comfortable for you near school and everything?]
Don’t be scared. People in the hospitals care to get us well. Even people suffering from mental abuse.
If your parents are actively and consciously sending you into the lion’s den, knowing that you’ll get abused, then if say you should put college on hold and take care of yourself first. Save yourself from the situation by getting in touch with authorities, social workers and anything of that sort (I’m not from the US so can’t tell what your options are).
If you’re on the edge, then please call a local suicidal hotline and get immediate help.
I’m not sure where you are posting from, but since you are still 17, in many places you still count as a minor, which means there would be child protection workers whose job it is to help someone like you. Otherwise you can try to call a crisis line that mostly helps adults who are abused. You should be able to google a crisis line or child protection line for your area by typing “child protection report (your location)” or “domestic violence crisis line (your location).” If you are worried about someone seeing your internet history, you can find a library and use a computer there.
You need to be brave not only for you but for your younger brother as well. Your well being along with your brothers is the priority. College is an escape for you and you shouldn’t try to escape, you need to face them and collect AS MUCH proof as you possibly can and I agree to seek help from either the hospital or child protective services you are not alone.
please call cps, police, anyone. tell an adult you can trust and get you and your brother out of the situation. You have to leave now. report this, gather any evidence, etc.
If you suspect your brother is being sexually abused, you need to help him and go to the police. That is very serious. College can wait, but abuse will be something that lives with you forever. It catches up to you later in life.
I don’t have advice on the subject but it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.
I believe in you.