him and i began as friends when i was 16 and we developed into partners when i just turned 17. making us together for a year and a half. we met at church and i 100% thought i was gonna marry this guy. he perused me, told me he loved me, told me that he would never leave me. then he did. i’m still in shock over everything bc i was starting to plan a future with us, i was saving up money so we could have a nice wedding. we promised each other that we would have a future with one another and i thought it was true. my parents and friends didn’t like this guy bc they felt as though he was lovebombing me, but i didn’t see it that way.
i thought he saw me entirely and loved me, but i guess i was wrong. i feel so alone and i don’t understand how you can leave the person you love. i wasn’t perfect, i had friends that he disliked, i was very needy, and i expected a lot out of him. he wasn’t perfect, he vaped and called me names out of anger. we weren’t perfect together but i thought he was my person and i was his.
now, i asked him if he was gonna talk to the girl he told me not to worry about and i feel so stupid. he told me that it’s highly likely that he will. i don’t understand how im supposed to move on. i haven’t been able to sleep in a week and hardly been able to eat. i don’t know if i should start seeing other people or wait to see if he meant it when he said that he might talk to this girl from his past.
we are still friends, but im planning on cutting him off entirely if he reaches out to this girl from his past. not bc i hate him, i dont. i would feel very betrayed
TL;DR
i’m looking for advice on how to move on. should i even move on? i thought this was the person God had for me but maybe i was wrong.
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Just cut ties with him. It’s hard to move on and stay in regular contact. He ended it with you. So just take that as now you know where you stand to him. He removed you from being his top priority. So, guard your heart and mind and remove yourself from being too close with him. He’s not worth it.
Just remember you are young. If you thought this love was great, wait until you meet the next one. They just get better as you grow as a person. And one day someone will blow you away so much so you won’t hardly remember this time of your life. Time has a funny way of healing all things.
Now if you’ve saved money, that’s great! Use that to help yourself and your own future. Throw it into a high yields savings account and help it earn more more in interest on itself and let it keep building and keep adding to it.