I really don’t have one. Everyone I talk to ends up just being cordial with me. They don’t joke or kinda riff with me like others. I’ll admit it’s partly due to my lack of personality. How do I get one?
I really don’t have one. Everyone I talk to ends up just being cordial with me. They don’t joke or kinda riff with me like others. I’ll admit it’s partly due to my lack of personality. How do I get one?
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You get what you give. Show that you want to joke around by joking around.
Pickup some hobbies that interest you!
Embrace the awkward. People will notice the effort. You don’t remember the exact lines or jokes people tell given enough time but you remember how they made you feel. You can do the same, the awkwardness even makes it seem more genuine.
See my problem is I have too many…and they often conflict 😅
Spend more time alone, like going out and doing stuff, not just doom scrolling. When you’re forced to know yourself without others around you can really start to develop a sense of self. Coming from a social chameleon with some depersonalization/derealization experience
Well, having no personality is a form of personality too.
Anti-anxiety screening and help. And an unlikely thing that has hurt me, especially when I was younger: get your hearing checked. If it doesn’t help you, maybe one other person will see this. (I was born with it, so I know this ‘weakness’, but having even a slight delay in auditory processing makes you a lot less witty and fun when it comes to guy banter.)
I think personality is only a little bit of the equation. For me, I can kinda tell who I can be friends with based on how they dress and carry themselves. Not all my friends would like each other, but most of them would.
For me, I love making jokes and making ppl laugh. It breaks the tension, and it allows ppl to open up to you often times.
I would find a comedian that you like (I like Dave attell, George Carlin, jesilnek) and steal their jokes and use them to your advantage. You can alter them or just steal that joke. You can work it into a conversation, or you can say “I heard a funny joke the other day” and then say it. Based on their reactions, you can often tell if they are willing to open up to you or not.
Another piece of advice would be don’t be afraid to look dumb. Often times, you’ll be the only one to notice and remember
Are you autistic? That will do it. You also might just not have anything in common with the people you see. If it is really bothering you, consider seeing either your GP or getting a referral to a psychologist. They might be able to help.
There are heaps of quizzes online for this, but use them with caution. Get a professional to help work it out. They can help you ‘act normal’ or learn how to act around others if you want to fit in more. (This is called ‘masking’, and it brings with it its own problems if you ever need to ‘unmask’ in front of the people you care about or need to think a certain way.)
Not connecting with others is only a problem if it is upsetting you. If it really doesn’t make you feel empty/upset/sad, it doesn’t matter.
If you are happy in general and are just feeling like you should be connecting with others because that is what everyone else is doing, then stop and think. Are you unhappy because you have no connections, or are you thinking you should be unhappy because you are different from others?
You will work it out. Life is strange and bewildering, at times.