I’ve finally decided to go low contact with my in-laws and BIL after a year of them destroying my self-confidence. They don’t seem to have any respect for my boundaries, so here we are. I don’t plan to tell them and they don’t live in our town so it won’t be too hard, except for when they come visit.
My in-laws usually stay with us when they come in town which I don’t know how to get out of. Majority of their family lives here, so they come often for events and to just see everyone. How do we navigate that? My kids love them so it sucks to have to do this, but my husband is on board completely (though he’s not going low contact necessarily).
Then my BIL and his family come frequently, but they stay with his MIL who lives only one street over and their kids come over constantly when they visit. I hate that I have to tell the kids not come over because they are great, but I just can’t stand having the adults in my house talking shit on me.
I’ve never dealt with anything like this before so I don’t really know what I’m doing. If we just tell them they can’t come here anymore I know that’s going to make things even worse for me. They are a family of narcissists and I’m not currently strong enough mentally to fight them on this. There’s also no talking to them, it literally makes everything worse.
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