Hi, I’m Fio, (20F) a third-year college student. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year with a (23M) who recently graduated. I love him deeply—he’s sweet and kind, and I’ve always tried to support him emotionally and even financially when needed, without asking for anything in return.
Lately though, I’ve been overthinking. He’s starting to act distant and cold. As of now, we haven’t talked in over a day. I checked for possible reasons—power outages, bad signal—but everything seems fine. I even reached out to someone near his area, and they said the network is normal. My messages are marked as delivered, so he’s receiving them, but still hasn’t replied.
What worries me the most is the thought that he’s losing feelings. He’s always preferred to keep our relationship private, and with this distance growing, I feel even more insecure. I’ve been through heartbreak before, and I truly see him as someone I want to be my last. I don’t know how to deal with this silence and the fear of being left again.
My question is: What should I do when my LDR partner suddenly starts acting distant despite no clear reason? How can I protect my heart without jumping to conclusions or pushing him further away?
TL;DR: 20F in an almost year-long LDR with 23M. He’s suddenly gone quiet and cold even though there’s no issue with signal or power. Messages are delivered, but he’s not replying. I’m scared he’s losing feelings and don’t know how to cope without driving him away.
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Losing interest in a LDR is a pretty common problem over time. Most relationships, you have body language, activities, shared experiences to bond over.. but in an LDR, it’s word salad or nothing. No variety in that diet.
Now, i am not a big believer in LDRs. More concerning though is that your relationship is.. “private” desite being over a year old. You mean.. private, as in hiding the relationship and not telling anyone you exist? Thats concering..