My girlfriend has a step dad that told her that he did not want to be the father figure in her life and would not fill that roll. My girlfriend came home in a tube top and he asked her what the fuck she was wearing, keep in mind nothing shows its not really a bad shirt. He starts yelling at her and calls her a ho and says she needs to get a job and pay rent. Keep in mind we are both only 17 and she just recently left her job because she was supposed to go work with her mom until something didn’t work out there. My girlfriend has asked me not to confront him but apparently her step dad calls her a ho quite often. I am somewhat worried the confrontation will get physical but I am confident I would win because he is a short fat man and I am 6ft plus 200 lbs plus and an athletic male. Old man strenght is real though.
My girlfriend has asked me not to do anything and said she wouldn’t be allowed to see me if I confronted her step dad. How do I handle this situation? HELPED BUT ANY OTHER ADVICE WOULD BE VERY MUCH APPRECIATED
How do I handle this situation with my girlfriends step dad?
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Listen bro, don’t play hero and end up banned from her life. She said don’t confront him, respect that. Your job is to support her, not throw hands with her stepdad. Be her peace, not more chaos.
respect her wishes if she needs you to step in she will say so. just be there when/ if that happens
You need to stay out of it.
Why is he name calling her if he refuses to be a father figure to her? Her mother hasn’t stepped in?
Be careful with this guy. He is a fuze ready to blow.
My brother is elderly and unwell. It’s difficult taking his abuse but I told my husband I don’t expect him to take abuse but o am perfectly capable of fighting my own battle when/if I decide too. So, yes the answer above is correct. Comfort and let her vent to you but do nothing!
Listen to your girlfriend and don’t do anything. As a husband to a narc family, dont do anything. If you do, you’re giving him fuel. He is obviously a coward to speak that way to her. Not only will she not be able to see you, she will suffer the consequences of your actions.
as much as you probably want to knock this guy out, don’t. she asked you not to, and any confrontation could make things harder on her. be there for her, help her look at safe options long-term, and encourage her to talk to a trusted adult or counselor.
I’m a fixit kind of person too so I totally get the impulse to want to fix things. I have had to learn to ask is there anything I can do that you think will help or are you just venting?
Do not attack him. He will involve the police and you’ll end up in court.
Is her father around? If so, can she live with him?
If she’s that serious then don’t confront him. Guard her like a bodyguard and be there for her all the way. Besides trash like that is not worth it.
What do you tell a step dad with two black eyes? Nothing you already told him twice.. what do you call a step dad with one black eye?! A fast learner..
Don’t confront him. She needs your support not more conflict. Her stepdad sounds like an absolute waste of space that has no business being any type of parental figure. Not sure how supportive her mom is of her. But the best advice is to support your gf and be a safe space for her. if she needs to talk, vent, be distracted, whatever it is to help so she doesn’t internalize his words. Nothing good will come from confronting him. Lots of good could come from both of you focusing your energy on supporting each other thru this.