So I (Non Binary 20) have had this problem before, but I mostly got through it, and I understand a lot of where I’m trying to go in life and who I am… I still have my struggles and questions and doubts, but I still keep my core personality and my core passions and hobbies and ambitions.
My partner (Trans 18) though, really does struggle, she always says she doesn’t know what her hobbies and ambitions are and what makes her happy… I’m just worried that this could become unhealthy for her, and she might become too, dependant on me? I guess is the term…
Basically, I just want her to also find her own happiness, and not become too reliant on me for happiness, because I was like that in a past relationship, and it was depressing and really made me lose all my sense of identity…
It’s not a problem, and I’m not complaining about it for my own mental well being at all, she’s very supportive… I just want to know how I can maybe be better supportive of her too…
I know, personally, the journey through an identity crisis is one you must do on your own… but I’m wondering if there’s any healthy ways I can assist in this, in which I’m just supporting her discovering her passions and hobbies, and not misguiding them in any way
Tldr; help gf find hobbies
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Your gf sounds like she could benefit from therapy and joining a meetup group for something that interests her.