Hi im a (m20) living in india and recently lifes been just hard to deal with,im in college as of now (diploma course,has about 6 months left to finish) ever since i joined college iknew shit was about to hit the fan and everything was already bleak anyway now about a year has passed it hasn’t gotten any better,all my classmates which is about merely 10 people in my class is all a pain in the ass to deal with,one dude per day has somewhat of a issue i have to go through and they all are just brutal,idk what to do amd everything i had done right now seems dump ihave lots of issues, personal, mental and many i just don’t know how to peice it together and anything together,how do yall deal with shit just tell me yall ,how do you get your shit together,
I tried somethings here and there i been lifting weights to overcome my own insecurity as for being skinny and weak and thats not going anywhere much,but anyway.
How do yall get your shit together and move on ?
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Seems like it’s less about what’s happening on the outside and more what’s going on inside. You may have trouble regulating your emotions and setting realistic expectations of yourself and of others. This is easy to say it in a sentence but quite difficult to actually overcome it.
It would be ideal to go to a therapist who might help you point out the problem exactly is. If you want to do it yourself, try journaling which might help regulate your thoughts. Try setting a life goal for yourself. A goal really helps you attain focus in your life and that way you have a strong reason to keep your emotions in check.
Continue lifting to deal with the stress, try running and hiking. Personally I love hiking, just to view beautiful scenery and get in the open air. For me personally I always just tell myself “this day has to end.” No matter what you’re feeling it’s just a moment in time. It won’t last forever my man, just take it day by day.
One thing at a time. As long as you’re doing something to improve your situation, even if it’s small, it’s progress and you’ll be doing better than you were yesterday. A week of that and you’ll have several things accomplished. A month? A year? That’s a lot of little steps in the right direction. No telling where it could take you.
Biggest hurdle is often just getting up and starting.
I don’t know how it is in India, but if it’s possible for you then I would take a semester off to refresh and reset. Don’t think you have to power through college one year after the other or else you’ll ruin your career prospects, that’s not how it works, and just getting away and focusing on something else for a while really helped my mental when I was in college.
Never perfect. Don’t overwork yourself. Try to eat healthy and get enough sun light with at least some fitness. Find a hobby or two, that you can do to keep yourself busy and enjoy the gratification that comes with your hobby. Talk to yourself, lovingly (I know that’s hard and feel ridiculous at times). Make sure you’re getting enough sleep too.
I’m not great at any of what I just said, but when I am good at keeping up with it — I often feel much better internally and it shows externally. Don’t be so hard on yourself man, because you’re honestly killing it being in India right now for your education. While doing all that, brother you’re still taking time reflect on yourself, what happiness and purpose means to you, and how to achieve that happiness. You’re only 20… you’re a child in an adults world so give yourself some grace. I don’t know you, but I’m sure as shit proud of you and I want you to be proud of yourself too. You deserve the love and the peace you try to give others 🤜💥🤛
I’m stuck in somewhat same condition, my course will be over after June, my diploma class has a strength of 7 students and all of them are idk what to say ajeeb
And stay away from negativity. Like everyone has their days but man if it’s not one thing it’s another it’s like wow what do u want?! U can’t have it all bro. Not u. Just saying.
You’re not homeless, or jobless, nor have you recently been attacked or persecuted. Trust me when I say, you don’t have it as hard as you think you do. This is mostly in your head based on how poorly you are dealing with your surroundings.
How I deal with sh** — compartmentalize. Anything that isn’t worth the time or energy gets zero of my attention. I don’t get angry at anything I don’t have control over.
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Sounds like you need someone or something that stops you from reinforcing the way you feel about everything. The problems you describe are the type of problems you’ll always have to deal with at one point or another as you grow. If you have no outlet, you’ll just be telling yourself it’s all fucked up
Just stay in your lane and focus on you. If people have problems and want to start shit, don’t even acknowledge it. You do not have to interact with bullshit – I understand it can be hard to just ignore and mind your own business as a young man.
Maybe more details about what you’re experiencing might help, but remember a swift kick to the nuts or a light punch to the throat generally incapacitates a man. Just be careful with the throat punch cuz that can end up being lethal. Bullies and assholes will never admit to getting their ass kicked by a self described skinny guy.