Besides him telling me he loves me, what are the most telltale signs a man genuinely loves a woman?
How do I know his love for me is real?
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Besides him telling me he loves me, what are the most telltale signs a man genuinely loves a woman?
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Besides him telling me he loves me, what are the most telltale signs a man genuinely loves a woman?
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Get to know him and understand him. There are many ways people show and express love. Many of them can be muted for many reasons other than lack of love. Can you provide some context as to why you are asking?
Everyone expresses love in their own way. One guy i dated wasn’t able to communicate his feelings, but he showed his love by fixing stuff for me, small or big things that i couldn’t deal with. Its up to you to decide if that is satisfying enough for you i guess
Putting up with your bullshit
You can’t because you can’t read minds.
What you can do is pay attention to their behaviour and see if it corresponds to a person who loves a woman for example does he have sex with a bunch of other women and ignore the woman he supposedly loves? Good chance he does not love her.
Women are known to see a man through rose coloured glasses so an outside perspective is important.
With men it’s easy:
You’ll know.
What is love?
Everything in life follows a sequence of priorities—whether in work-related tasks or household responsibilities. If he is prioritizing you and consistently allocating his time for you, then congratulations—you’ve received a strong, positive indication.
But if he says he loves you, yet his actions tell a different story, then I’m sorry to say: you’re likely being exploited by sweet promises (which, unfortunately, many women tend to fall for).
The fact that his hands are shaking/sweating, he is sweating, and he is avoiding your eyes means that he really loves you because true love is being hesitant to even hold the hand of the person you love.
To me it’s how he prioritizes you. At the end of the day it’s gotta be enough for you. Is he setting up dates? Is there proof he is thinking about you in his own way? Does that matter to you?
Love isn’t just about the feeling inside him he feels for you. Healthy, worthy love is accompanied by action.
That said, be open-minded about it. I learned a lot from my ex, but ultimately found her to be quite unfair about it. I was a working student at a really difficult school. I worked 4 nights a week and went to class and often came home to study my ass off to make only okay grades and that stressed me out. My sleep schedule was optimized to be 6 hours a night so I could support this lifestyle.
She expressed that she didnt feel like I made enough time for her, so I followed, although we lived together. I planned dates, and put in a lot of time cooking really nice meals for us. Id come home with flowers randomly. And I’d compliment her and acknowledge her efforts all the time. Id send her music. I was essentially working this job so we could have nice things to do and pay my part of our bills.
But there were 2 flaws that I felt were the root of our demise: she got hung up on how to specifically please her, and it seemed like no matter how much more I did, it was never enough.
She wanted me to express my affection by writing her letters. It didn’t matter that I went out of my way to cook these elaborate meals or that I put off doing a lot of the things I wanted to spend time with her. In her eyes, I wasn’t “loving her the way she wanted.” In my opinion, compatibility is basically a matching between the way 2 people love and the way they want to be loved. There is such a thing as “love language,” but love language doesn’t get this granular. It might suggest you like gifts, it will not say you should only accept letters. I was very inconsistent with letters because they were very time-consuming especially with how often she wanted them.
I’d learn later she was quite anxiously attached and I became pretty avoidant, which is a pretty toxic and common feedback loop you need to get out in front of it if it exists.
TL;DR:
If he’s prioritizing you and you can see that, he’s making sure he’s making you feel comfortable in the relationship, and he’s open to hearing “why not,” you know he really does love you. That said, there’s only so much one man can do if you inherently struggle with feeling secure about yourself. Insecurity is natural and it’s okay, but you need to be honest with yourself where that feeling is coming from. If it’s not coming from him, he can comfort you, but he cannot fix that for you. Hope this helps!
I genuinely believe that guys are quicker to say the words but slower to catch the feelings. What that means for me is that I “love” the girl who starts having sex with me, but I find myself hoping to keep her forever only after a second condition is met. Every girl I’ve ever loved and knew it deep within was when I started to hope for her to pamper me. I want her to treat me like special care project, all while offering to hold my hand, put a new washcloth on my forehead, or kiss the pain away. It’s very much an action focused “go out of your way for my sake” type of thing and when I want that from you (to see my pathetic state and to care for him too) then I also want you forever.